From the outside, it seems, it is better to know how to raise a child correctly. But it only seems to be.
1. Need to be stricter
Of course, as in that joke: "I was the strictest parent until I had my own children." While her friend does not have real children, she perceives them as a kind of project that can be carried out according to her own idea, performing clear tasks. Here are just a small individual person of a completely different opinion about all this.
All future parents think that they will not include cartoons, they will feed only healthy foods, will establish a strict regime, children will sleep for 12 hours in a separate room - but the realities of our life are all demolish. And last but not least - the desire for at least minimal comfort for the mother in her difficult everyday life. For example, half an hour of a cartoon so that my mother would drink hot coffee and eat while sitting, a piece of sausage - if only he would not whine over the soul and not put his hands on the plate.
2. No need to stay at home with your child, travel
There are a number of delights here at any age. The smallest need a strict regime, not a change of time zones, mother's acclimatization, a change of premises, strangers, etc. Most of the time he should be in peace and quiet. An older child begins to whine corny. And the further - the more. Then they start looking for a toilet, whining about the child being tired, thirsty, hungry, thirsty and have something other than the options you have prepared, etc.
A child needs many times more things on a trip. He needs to organize a separate entertainment program or become a clown himself. Or leave it to grandmothers - but first, make sure that you have such grandmothers.
In general, travelers who do not have children imagine it as simply taking +1 person and +1 bag with them. This is actually +1000 problems. If a friend refuses to understand this, offer her a couple of days to nurse your child around the clock.
2. Hire a nanny / give it to kindergarten
Each mother understands how individual it is. Starting from the availability of funds for a nanny and places in the nearest kindergarten to the child's reaction to such changes. Many children react with hysteria, and the mother, in turn, does not want to miss important moments in the child's life.And there are many more worthy reasons to be with the child, and not give it away. But explaining them to people without children is not so easy.
3. What to feed, when to plant on a pot, whether to give a pacifier
You can understand a friend who refers to the opinions of pediatricians and psychologists - but you already know all this, right? But you act in a way that is more convenient in your specific situation, because it is you who are responsible for the child and his health, clean up after him, calm down, etc.
4. Spend more time for yourself, go to the beauty salon
No problem, just let your caring friend sit 2-3 times a month with your baby. And you go to all your business.5. Let her cry
Baby crying is annoying. But he always acts on his mother more than on strangers - as nature intended, because it is the mother who must come to the aid of the baby. You physically cannot just leave the child to cry - and rightly so, because it is a big trauma for him that his mother is not around at such a moment. A friend will understand this if she has children of her own.
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