Moms are amazing creatures. For all their busyness, they cannot pass by several topics on the Internet so as not to get involved in the discussion.
Cuckoo moms vs cuckoo moms
Some mothers completely devote their lives to children, the other part has three children, but most of the time they spend on work, hobbies and husbands (and are very proud of this). How can you pass by and not prove to each of them that it is, of course, impossible to take care of children too much, but what he will take care of her own interests for the mother, and not sit next to the child, pricking her finger floor.
Most mothers still try to keep a balanced position: to devote time to themselves and their children. And they become the third "group" in this dispute. What's interesting: each of these mothers loves their children and strives for his and her own happiness. However, on the net it is quite easy to come to misunderstandings and different interpretations of the same words. Therefore, the debate about how much attention a child should receive is endless.
Severity versus permissiveness
It is impossible to prohibit, to say "not" too often - it is also impossible, one must give freedom, but you need to define boundaries, you need to be a very understanding mother, but still consistent and strict. And each mother understands all these concepts in her own way. But he cannot but share his experience and opinion, as others should understand them. And to bring almost a parable about how the uncle put chewing gum into the hair of a child in the transport with the words "And I was also allowed to do everything as a child."
It's easy or hard to give birth
There are a number of very lucky or very forgetful mothers who remember and perceive childbirth as something wonderful and easy. And they say that the main thing is to breathe and tune correctly. Mom, of course, should remain calm during childbirth, but it must be borne in mind that after all, most women give birth in real pain, even if the birth is, from a medical point of view, normal.
Yes, someone gave birth at home, independently and quickly. And someone gave birth in the hospital for two days. Some were cared for, while others experienced medical abuse during childbirth. Every mother is a heroine and has done the impossible, it is worth remembering this and ignoring the comments of people who think differently.
Feed in public or not
A discussion in which absolutely everyone interferes: moms, dads, childfree, grandmothers, grandfathers, teenagers, anyone. And the number of opinions is huge. There are mothers who breastfeed themselves, but consider it unacceptable to do so in public. Others do not have children of their own, but believe that there is nothing wrong with feeding in a public place. Still others simply feed in a cafe or park and do not bother. The fourth - they feed, but bother. Fifths believe that the child can tolerate without food until the mother comes home with him.
How many people - so many different opinions. And in fact, it is useless to convince someone.
Breastfeed at all or not
Some of the women were unable to establish breastfeeding, although they tried. Others had no intention of breastfeeding at all. And wasting time discussing or condemning these cases is just weird. This is the choice of a particular mother and a particular family. She herself will figure out the causes and consequences. Did you succeed, but others did not? Support the person with words of encouragement and support. You did not breastfeed and do not advise others? Do not get personal and explain how you came to such a decision, its real pros and cons.
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