How to wean a child

Grandparents often advise young people parents do not teach the child to hand. According to pediatricians and psychologists, this is fundamentally wrong. To make the baby calmer, grow up confident in himself and the safety of the world around him, he needs to spend a lot of time on the arms of his parents.

If in the first months of life carrying the baby on the arms is a natural process, then what to do then, when the child has become too heavy and the mother wants to at least do household chores or some other business?

1. If a child is sick or has experienced stress, then his legal right is to sit on the arms, you should not try to wean him off in such acute moments.

2. Begin to gradually "let go" of the baby after 3 months, when his psyche matures a little and adapts to the big new world.

3. Maintain other types of contact: massage, stroking the arms-legs, communication, kissing.

4. In order not to get sick before bed, create a system of rituals: bathing, feeding, hugging, stroking. There will be no immediate effect, but in a couple of months it is possible to teach him to fall asleep without motion sickness.

5. Children have different types of nervous systems: some are easily left without a mother with other adults, some are not. Both options are fine. The main thing is for mom to stay calm.

6. If for several months you have not even tried to give the child to handle any of the other adults, do not be surprised that then the child will violently protest and be afraid. It is necessary to accustom oneself to the company of other people and the temporary absence of mother gradually and from the first months of life.

7. Sometimes mothers "cover up" their psychological problems with their child, trying to prove to the whole world that she is the best mother by constant carrying in her arms. And behind this may be hidden problems with self-acceptance, with marital relations, etc. In this case, the mother also harms the child, preventing him from separating and developing at the right pace.

8. Often, children begin to ask for pens when the youngest child is born in the family, who takes all the attention of adults. To deal with this, show the elder the privileges and benefits of being older (not just responsibilities).

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