Why children can't be ignored

Some parents try not to spill out negative at the child in the form of a cry, rush to the other extreme and begin to ignore him. But in fact, ignoring is one of the worst punishments for a child.

Yes, you do not shout, do not hit - but you do not notice him, do not answer and do not respond to calls. And this is not at all a harmless punishment. So you let the child know that he simply does not exist for you. After all, if he is not noticed, then he is not.

Adults understand that ignorance and resentment are just ways of manipulation. And children feel abandoned, for them it is a very heavy punishment, they are ready to endure any reaction from you, just to become "noticeable" again. And the reaction is the easiest to get how? That's right, bad behavior. That is, as a method of education, such punishment does not work at all.

A child needs constant interaction with an adult, to confirm his importance and need, his visibility, importance in the life of an adult. Not only his situational behavior depends on this, but also normal development in general. That is, it is even easier to inflict trauma by ignoring it than by shouting (but shouting is still not worth it).

Mom's neglect is especially scary. The child feels that he is not, that is, he experiences the fear of death, which is very difficult to endure both morally and physically. A boycott on the part of the mother is the first step towards complexes, neuroses and mental disorders in the child.

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