When emotions are overwhelmed, the parent can tell the child a lot of unnecessary things, while the problem will remain in the air.
So that in quarrels and conflicts the constructive won, let's figure out how to do it and not to do it.
Do not bear the blame
Find out who is really to blame for what happened. It often happens that parents do not notice their contribution to a certain incident, ignore and scold only the child.Let's say the child broke the cup, but you were the one who put it on the edge of the table.
Talk about actions, not personality
Perhaps, parents make this mistake most often, because of stress, we do not choose the words, we point out that the child is bad, and not the act that he did. Such statements not only do not solve the problem, but also make the child start to think worse about himself, this leads to low self-esteem.
Don't use blackmail
You are an adult and, of course, you can simply take a toy or a smartphone from a child in order to punish. As a result, you will provoke a tantrum, resentment and anger in the child. Conflicts need to be resolved differently, instill in the baby respect for the words of the mother and father, make him listen and think about what they say.The punishment of humiliation is not appropriate
If there is a choice between punishment for a misdemeanor, then it is better to deprive him of some preference, and not do it badly. Of course, above we urged you not to use blackmail, but still the ban on cartoons will affect the child is not as destructive as screaming or whipping with a belt (and not only physically, be sure).
Problem solving in this way instills in the child the belief that the one who cries louder wins.
Recall
- TOP-3 fatal mistakes in raising girls.
- In Zaporozhye, a scandal broke out with the participation of a kindergarten teacher.
- what not to do at a party: rules for educated.
