Often mothers go to work when the child is 1.5-3 years old - and this is very difficult for both.
1. The child must be prepared in advance
To do this, even before going to work, you need to arrange small periods of separation: for example, send for a day or overnight to your grandmother. So the child gets used to the fact that the mother sometimes leaves, but she will definitely return.
2. Don't go to work too early
The most difficult age for parting with mom is 1.5-3 years. If you know in advance that you will have to go to work during this period and leave the baby with relatives, a nanny or give it to a kindergarten, then it is better to do this before 1.5 years old, or at least teach it to separation before that age.
3. Create goodbye rituals
Let it be special words, hugs, mini-games or other rituals that will brighten up the upcoming breakup.
4. Give your child a favorite toy
Let her play the role of a talisman that is associated with you and will help the child feel less lonely.
5. Create the right mindset
If, before each separation, the mother cries herself, speaks with regret that it is necessary to leave, then the child also perceives what is happening as an undesirable situation for both, which must be avoided.How to explain to a child why mom needs to go to work
1. Tell us what will happen
Try to focus on the positive aspects: the child will be interesting to walk, play fun, eat deliciously - and then mom will come back. Try to tell your child as much as possible about his future day and what will happen. Also explain what you will be doing without him.
2. Explain the practical side of change
You will earn money, you can buy him nice clothes, delicious food, interesting toys. You can go on a trip and have fun together in an unusual place.
3. Tell that everyone does it
All mothers go to work (even if not all, but this moment can be omitted), and not only mother, but also father, other people. And their children calmly spend time without them and feel happy. It is important to choose the most age-appropriate words and examples.
4. Play your work
This will make it clearer for the child what you are doing, how you make money. He will begin to view work as fun, not punishment. It is also worth discussing various professions with your child when watching cartoons or reading books.5. Spend quality time outside of work
It is very important to let the child understand how important and loved he is, even if the mother is not always there. Try to stay active, positive, in a good mood, pay maximum attention to your child, without being distracted by the phone and other extraneous matters. Especially when he is very small and needs you badly.
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