How do you know if your child is highly sensitive or just a manipulator? Here are 10 signs in favor of the first option.
1. He does not allow him to adjust his regime to the needs of the family.
The slightest attempts to shift his sleep in time or in the way of laying down fail and end in tantrums. Until about 5-6 years of age, such children do not tolerate changes in the daily routine.
2. Rituals are very important to him
Eating food in a certain sequence, putting things in a certain order, 2 kisses at night - and nothing else.
3. He is afraid of difficulties in advance.
Anything new causes fear and anxiety in the child. To go to a new circle? What if there will be laughing at me? Go to first grade - what if no one wants to be friends with me and it will be very difficult?
4. He hates changing plans.
If the child is in the mood for a walk or a trip, but the weather has failed and the plans have changed, he will be very upset and it will be hard to worry about it. From the outside it seems that this is a trifle, but for a child, a sharp change in plans is the basis for tears and bad moods for the whole day.5. He chooses clothes very carefully.
Highly sensitive children like their clothes to be soft, very comfortable, not clinging to anything anywhere, so that head freely climbed, etc. Get ready that in the store the choice can be very delayed during time.
Such children always love old things much more than new ones. And don't let them be thrown away.
6. Little things annoy him
There are things that you will not pay attention to, but for a child this will be a whole problem: too loud the clock is ticking, hair is disheveled, someone nearby is breathing loudly, sand is creaking underfoot or is stuck on hands and etc.
7. He has a lot of fears
All people are afraid of something. But highly sensitive children are afraid of literally everything: new places, new people, animals, insects, transport, shop, darkness, etc.
8. He prevents you from cleaning up the room.
The room is the child's personal space. From a certain age, every kid wants to be the only commander in this territory. This is even more acute in highly sensitive children.
Only he knows exactly how to put things, in what order - and your attempts to do it for him only interfere and annoy, because you are doing everything "wrong."9. He is very selective in food.
In particular, this applies to consistency. In principle, there should be no lumps, sharp edges, cracks and bites, signs of product deterioration (partially darkened banana, for example).
10. He easily remembers details, but does not remember the whole picture well.
For example, you went to visit friends, where the child played with their children. He can remember that the girl had a sundress with butterflies, and there was a ficus tree on the windowsill, but he cannot describe whether their room was beautiful, what they were talking about.
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