Bad advice: 6 ways to make life harder than it should be

Living in the modern world is much easier than it was 100 years ago. However stress we experience much more than our ancestors. Why does this happen? In part, we ourselves make life difficult for ourselves. And in these ways.

1. Losing situations in our head

These can be both past quarrels and conflicts, and potential showdowns in the future. Or just conversations that we just can't decide. For example, to defend your personal boundaries in front of your parents or ask your boss for a raise. We remember how someone touched us, relive and relive this situation, inventing how we could respond - instead of just letting go of the situation.

Or finally decide on a conversation that is long overdue. This makes us nervous, worried, although in fact nothing is happening (or has already happened and it's time to stop worrying about it).

2. It takes a long time to decide on unpleasant matters

If you don't want to do the cleaning or the report, internal negotiations begin: arguments, persuasions, doubts etc. Instead of doing business and forgetting about it, we take a long time to decide on it, prepare, tune in. It kills productivity. Don't look for motivation for every action you take. Just do what it takes.

3. Comparing ourselves to others

Social networks have become firmly entrenched in our lives: there is communication, entertainment, discussions, inspiration, study and self-development. But sometimes - just flipping through pictures of someone else's beautiful life and accompanying suffering due to their own "insignificance". It is important to remember a few things:

A) in social networks they post all the best they can show, they choose one photo out of a thousand, for each photo there is a lot of work, sometimes, a whole team of specialists;

B) all people have bad times and no one has everything perfect, but they will not share with subscribers to the fact that they quarreled with their mother to smithereens, the children behave unbearably, and from the newfangled diet solid constipation;

C) shut down social media if it depresses you and take care of your life. Someone on Instagram is traveling, and you are sitting at home? So start planning your trip, write down how much money you need and where and at what time of year you want to go - and then move towards your goal.

4. We postpone life for later

Someday you will start eating right, stop buying junk food, stop drinking, smoking and sign up for the gym. You will also read a lot of books and start your own business. But not today and not now, but somehow later. We will travel and read when the children grow up. Let's go to the gym - when we lose weight. We will eat healthy food - when the holidays are over, or from the 1st, or from Monday.

And the time of the beginning of your rich and successful life is constantly shifting, you are rich and beautiful somewhere in the future, which does not come. And if you continue to postpone life for later, then it will not come. Do the best you can, on every day of your life, go towards your dreams and goals. And you will see how the dreams of a lifetime come true in just a few months.

5. We allow ourselves to be manipulated

Disinformation and manipulation have penetrated much deeper into our lives than it might seem. Observe information hygiene: do not click on headlines that cause stress, anger, provoke you to strong emotions. Quality news has neutral headlines. Any value judgments, "shock", "scandal", etc. designed to use you for other people's selfish purposes. The more scandalous the news, the more likely it is not true.

Don't read news about murders and car accidents, especially if they are accompanied by photos or videos. Don't get into arguments on social media or read comments - it's absolutely always a waste of time.

Don't buy something just for advertising. Its main task is to convince you to buy even something that you do not need at all, but makes you spend money and energy.

6. We all take it too seriously

There are really serious things in life that relate to safety, life and health. And there is a desire to make a drama and a scandal due to the unsuccessful color of the cake to order, spilled coffee and the fact that someone on the Internet is wrong. Cool down, you do not need to perceive others as potential enemies or judges. More often than not, they don't care what you look like or what you do. Plans can change, people and money come and go, but life goes on, and its ups and downs need to be treated with a grain of humor.

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