Why it happens?
1. The child in the family is assigned the central role of "idol", everything is subordinated to his interests, and every desire is fulfilled. The kid, of course, likes it, he easily takes on the role of "commander-in-chief" and issues orders. And adults are only moved by how funny a child is "playing an adult" and run to urgently correct the situation if he is sad, cried, or is dissatisfied with something.
2. The natural stage of a child's development. Caring parents take care of the baby one way or another until a certain age. While he is a preschooler, he gets a lot of attention and care. The child believes that dad goes to work to earn money for sweets and entertainment, and mom should devote all her time to the baby if she is at home.
It is normal for a child to consider himself the center of the universe, but parents should gradually teach him that this is not entirely true and that the interests and desires of other people should also be respected.3. The child receives little parental attention. In this case, the baby is trying to control this situation by giving commands to everyone around him in order to attract attention to himself. In his case, any ways are good, just to establish contact with an adult and get feedback.
4. Age crisis. From time to time, children experience leaps in growth, development - and crisis periods come with them. A child, feeling new strengths and abilities in himself, tries to take a leading position, to express his voice and opinion, to influence the world around him in order to make it comfortable and pleasant for himself. In any case, within the family.
5. Character traits. The temperament of choleric and sanguine children sometimes makes them too active: they cannot wait, are not ready to compromise, therefore they begin to command. It is impossible to change the temperament, but instilling in a child the understanding that it is impossible to command parents is quite a feasible task.
What if the child commands you?
The most important thing is not to give in, even if the behavior of the little commander seems funny and completely harmless, and you do not have the strength to argue with him. It is important to remain calm, not yelling or overreacting to this behavior. The child learns to command much faster than weaned from it.
Analyze what exactly might be causing this behavior in a child, taking into account the above reasons: if you overprotect the baby or, on the contrary, deprive him of sufficient attention - think how it is fix.Teach your child "magic words": thank you, please, sorry. Explain why it is important to say these words and generally express your requests in full sentences. That is, not by shouting "I want compote", "give", "help", but "help me, please remove the toys", "pour me, please, compote", etc.
If a child is throwing a tantrum, you cannot follow his lead, so that he does not think that in this way you can achieve what you want. Enduring a child's tantrum is difficult, but absolutely necessary.
Do not behave like the child's "servants", show that the main parents in the house are the parents and the child must take into account the interests of the whole family, and not only his own.Set a positive example. Do not speak in a commanding tone and orders either with the child or with other people, then he will not repeat such behavior.
Talk to your child about his feelings, emotions, and desires. Teach him to express them in different words, not just directions to the elders.
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