I blog about fashion, style and beauty, but the theme of self-love runs through it. I really want women to love themselves, then self-care becomes motivated, and I want to dress up. Sometimes I even wonder to what extent a woman can drive herself into complexes, invent problems out of the blue. But what can I say, sometimes I myself can give a real master class on the topic of self-flagellation.
When women's self-esteem is low, this is often reflected in behavior with a man. Here my pain takes on a more personal character, since there are such girls in my environment. Kind, beautiful, good, but do not value themselves. Some men quickly start using it. Let's see how a woman with low self-esteem often behaves in a relationship and we will NOT do so.
Fights off the desire to compliment
- How beautiful you are!
- Yeah, beautiful, you saw my thick thighs!
Thick thighs can be replaced with a large nose, huge cheeks, crooked legs, flat chest. The list, as you can imagine, is not exhaustive. A man wants to please you, to see a smile on your face, but gets negative. The most interesting thing is that over time, you can inspire a person with your shortcomings, and he will look at you through the prism of your own complexes.
A woman with low self-esteem not only does not know how to accept compliments, she becomes embarrassed by them. It may even seem that the compliment is made out of a desire to receive something, and not from a pure heart. If you feel discomfort instead of joy from compliments, this is a serious reason to think about the time to correct your self-esteem and allow yourself to live happily.
Justifies the man
-Well, think, he abuses alcohol, but he is a wonderful father.
Or he can afford to say too much in a quarrel, but he contains me. Or 100 more excuses. A woman either really thinks that there is nothing wrong with this, or it is more convenient for her to think so. It's not always the same. Sometimes a woman finds excuses for such terrible things as cheating or even assault. The latter is a very serious topic that is increasingly being raised by the public in our country and I hope this will lead to adequate measures from the legal side. We have long needed a law to regulate domestic violence.
A woman with low self-esteem may consider herself unworthy of a good relationship, sometimes it lies on the surface, and sometimes everything is not so obvious to her.
Jealous
There are actually several reasons for jealousy, low self-esteem is one of them. A woman is not confident in her beauty, significance for a man, and accordingly in his loyalty. We are not talking about men who are womanizing now, it is better not to mess with them at all, otherwise no self-esteem will help. Talk about morbid jealousy for no reason.
Sometimes there is a particular woman who is jealous of. By jealousy, you admit to yourself that you think you are worse, weaker, less attractive. Comparing oneself with others is a sore spot for those with low self-esteem.
Sometimes there is no specific woman, and it's more about the man's distrust, that you are not loved enough. A woman with low self-esteem thinks that a man does not love her enough and therefore can change.
Puts the man first
In normal healthy relationships, reciprocity comes first. But insecure women tend to elevate a man, while underestimating themselves. They can spit on their needs, if only the man was good. All the care goes to the man. At the same time, the man does not reciprocate in terms of care, and the woman tries to deserve it with her actions for his sake.
Needless to say, earning care is unrealistic? That the desire to earn something cannot be called healthy at all?
My dear women, love yourself! Place a class, if this topic is interesting for you, subscribe, we will increase self-esteem together!
