The theme of death as the topic of sex comes up sooner or later in a child. What if he died beloved pet? Or grandmother left this world? How to tell him about it, and is it worth?
"Mom, are you going to die?" - he asks the child shocked mother. A sudden question to introduce it to a screeching halt. Sometimes easier to talk about sex than death. So how to speak correctly on this delicate subject?
Let's talk about death?
When to start talking with your child on this topic? The unequivocal answer is no. Most often, children are interested in death in 3-6 years. Sit and specifically discuss such issues is not necessary, only when the child asks himself. It is desirable to these parents deal with their fears and prejudices associated with death. All questions should be answered calmly and clearly. You do not know anything about death? Honestly say, "I do not know much, but I'll try to answer all questions."
The child died pet
Inform the child about the death of dear animal or not? Definitely yes. Stories from the series, "Bobby ran away" to forget. The child has the right to know the truth, no matter how bitter it may be. And it has the right to otgorevat their loss. You had to put to sleep petTell us, why did you do it: to alleviate the suffering, just dog was an old and he was in pain. A child can you be angry and moody - so he lives grief of loss. Help him to go through strange emotions together, keep it and just be there.
The child is dead loved one
If someone died in the family, to hide it from the child in any case impossible. A child is not a fool, he sees - something happened. For some reason all cry and beside him sigh. If he does not know the truth, it can dofantazirovat much. Stories about the departure of a loved one will cause the child feelings of guilt - "I - a bad time I have left." And strangers «good» people will tell the truth, then he feels betrayed.
Talking about the death of a loved one, do not sigh around him "oh poor you, my orphan," said the very fact, offer help and do not try to replace that person. Also, do not pamper the child to ease grief, he just needs time to relive the pain. In his plays, you may receive the theme of death: it will bury the toys, paint tombstones and graves - so he lives on the loss of language which he understands. It can also be moody and aggressive - in a stage of grief is normal to feel anger at the deceased.
The loss of a loved talking, when they themselves will be the resource. Tears are welling in my eyes, you too hard, but get hysterical is not necessary. Do not use euphemisms: he fell asleep forever, it is gone forever - the child may become afraid to sleep because in the dream die, or let others go somewhere. If nearly died from the disease, explain that not all diseases lead to such an outcome. At the end of 6-8 weeks, the baby will be easier - so runs the acute phase of grief. If not become easier - seek professional help.
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