"Stop crying" - the most used phrase in relation to the child in tears. Behind it is usually followed by: "Calm down!" If the baby to these two magic phrases tear off switch. It does not turn off. But it includes fear, if you now do not calm down, you will be punished. So it is better to tell a child crying? And why "stop crying" does not work?
Remember, as in Carlson: "Do not roar!" Much help? The child can actually stop crying, but sad to learn inside. No tears for show. Boys after 50 years of internal emotions die of heart attacks and strokes, and adult girls suffer from hypertension and headaches. Tears for the child, however, as an adult - well! Soothe your baby need other words. What?
Here's our top 10 phrases instead of "stop crying."
1. Sad - normally.
2. I know that you now difficult.
3. I'm with you.
4. Tell me what happened?
5. I'm listening carefully.
6. It really might scare / annoy / to disappoint you.
7. I will help you.
8. I understand you.
9. I think you want to be alone. I want to be there, but leave you. You know I'm - not far, you can always turn to me for help.
10. Tears - not ashamed.
What will it give? Acceptance and understanding. The child will know the parents at his side. With them safely to cry. Love him and are willing to listen to anything: a sad or cheerful.
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