The French amaze Russians, because their children go to kindergartens from 9 months old, sleep all night until morning, and eat what they were given. What's the secret of French moms? What rules of education should we adopt from them?
Here are the basic parenting rules from French moms
They know there are no perfect moms.
No matter how you strive to become the perfect mom, you will not succeed. For example, Russian women find it simply impossible to combine parenting, attention to a husband, household chores and growth in the profession. French women do not worry if they have to spend more than half of the day at work, but when they are with children, they completely devote themselves to them. French mothers are not fond of early development. Before school, they do not teach kids to read, during this period of childhood they instill in them other skills, for example, communication skills, self-control, responsibility, concentration of attention.
Russian mothers are very anxious in this regard, and they are influenced by society. Therefore, they are ready to put babies on the potty from the cradle, to teach letters, sometimes even demanding the impossible from children. But children cannot be treated like a marathon, and you can hardly be 100% sure that if you are so demanding of your kid, he will enter a cool university.
They do not devote themselves entirely to the child.
The French say that everyone should have a personal space. Therefore, French women love themselves and go on vacation, not because they have little time left for it. They have their own social circle and their own lives, and the child is not allowed to touch this.
And what about Russian mothers? They are either trying to strike a balance or making sacrifices. They give themselves entirely to children, so it is quite difficult for them to understand where the boundaries of the child ended and their personal ones began. They run at the first cry of a child, and often forget about themselves for their well-being. French women think this is wrong! They give their children more independence and more freedom for themselves.
They have their own source of income
French women do not strive to successfully marry, which is what many Russian women sin. French ladies are confident, judicious and know that they should have their own source of income that will help them stay afloat, even if they suddenly break up with a man.
And Russian mothers are on maternity leave until the baby is 3 years old, and then they realize that, in principle, the husband earns good money and does not drive them to work, so you can stay as a housewife. Financial dependence on her husband has not yet brought real happiness to anyone. No one knows how the relationship will turn out tomorrow, and a woman may be left alone without a livelihood.
They don't feel guilty.
French people know how to truly enjoy life. Therefore, their women do not feel guilty before their children. They just understand that such destructive feelings will not change anything. Why quit your job to devote time to your child when you can hire a nanny? But when French women finally find themselves with their children, they devote time to them, rather than surfing the Internet or calling friends to chat.
Russian mothers all have the same guilt feeling. The child does not want to go to kindergarten, cries until his ears ring, so mommy will harass herself all day at work the fact that she chose a career instead of staying with her blood at home and not disturbing him psyche.
They give the child independence
French women deliberately part with their children to give them the opportunity to get bored and show their independence. Therefore, their children value their time with their parents. French mothers allow their children a lot, they give them the right to make decisions, learn to act, take responsibility, etc.
With the advent of children and a decree, a Russian mother feels a severe lack of time, and bears her maternal duty like a heavy burden. But is it really much better for the child?
Parents' bedroom - ban
The life of parents completely and entirely belongs to their children for the first 3 months of life - the French women are sure. During this period, the baby can sleep with dad and mom, and then he goes to "live" in a separate bed in any situation. Children are not allowed to enter their parents' bedroom, and this is the strictest rule. And children grow up with the understanding that the life of their parents does not revolve around them!
In Russian families, as soon as a child appears, relations between spouses often deteriorate. Because in the first place a woman turns out to be a child, everyone runs around him, trying to please, and babies often almost to the very school they sleep with their parents in the same bed, or with mom, and dad is sent off to rest in another room.
Mom is not a servant, mom is not a boss
From childhood, mother informs her children, well, and her husband that she is not a servant. Therefore, she is not obliged to carry out all household chores, they are divided in the family. At the same time, the French mother is not a boss or a tyrant, yes, she is in charge, but not a dictator. French children have a lot of freedom, their mother, of course, listens to their opinions and desires, but she makes all the decisions herself. And French women keep this balance in an amazing way.
For Russian mothers, everything is exactly the opposite! Sitting at home with a child, they immediately turn into a nanny, and a cook, and a teacher, and a cleaner, and a laundress. At the same time, they are very afraid to suppress the child's self-expression and inflict psychological trauma on him. Russian mothers are very afraid that each established prohibition can lead to the fact that the child's potential is blocked, because he is, at least, a genius. And French women don't think so about their offspring, the main thing for them is that they are healthy and happy.
I think Russian mothers should learn a lot from French ones! What do you think?
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