You can find parenting recommendations everywhere. Someone says that there is nowhere without rigor, someone that a liberal approach is needed. I invite you to learn about eight rules that a good parent must follow. They were formulated by Doctor of Pedagogy Dima Zitser.
8 rules of being a good parent
No need to raise children
Zitser considers the term "upbringing" to be very rude, because it is assumed that the educator is always right, which is wrong. You can influence a child by your own example, but you cannot interfere in his life and instill what and how it should look.
No need to punish
Punishment is the influence of a parent on a child for not liking how he behaves. To punish is to humiliate. And this is the destruction of relationships. Until the age of 7, the child believes that parents are never wrong, and after 7 that they are always right. Grievances accumulate that negatively affect the psyche.
Become a child's protector
You must be a reliable fortress for your child, you are the people who will never betray and will always support. Then children will grow up with the understanding that they must protect their parents, respect, and provide support when they are even wrong.
Apologize
This is a great example for a child. If you are wrong about something or behave in some way inappropriate, learn to apologize. So the parent in the eyes of the baby becomes normal, adequate, equality is felt.
Learn to talk to your child
When you are busy, and the child is spinning under your feet, what do you say most often? "Play something", "don't bother", "get busy", etc. These phrases need to be fought. Before you say something like that, think a hundred times. Learn to talk to your child instead of chasing him away or telling him what to do. Otherwise, he will think that you are not happy with him, and do not want to accept him as he is.
No need to prepare a child for life
All the same it is useless, he will do as he sees fit, and will already learn from his mistakes. Again, set an example, talk about various topics, but do not indicate what to do and what not. There is no need to prepare a child for the future life. We teach children something, although we ourselves do not know what our life will be like later.
Laugh at yourself
By about the age of six, the child realizes that the parents can also make mistakes, and that if the mother says: “I will blow, and everything will pass,” then still nothing goes away. Therefore, you need to let your child understand that you, too, can say something wrong, or do something wrong, and be sure to learn to laugh at yourself!
Love your baby
It is impossible to spoil a person with love. Zitser says that he does not understand at all what it means to "pamper" a child. After all, when you love a person with all your heart, you want to pamper him, buy everything he asks, as if once again showing your sincere feelings. Tell your child that you love him, forgive him little pranks. It's one thing if you can't buy something for your baby, it's another thing if you have the opportunity to do it. So why not buy it then?
Do not deny your child what he really dreams about! Show by example how people should communicate, how to relate to different things, how to react to different circumstances. Make friends with the child, respect his opinion, do not dismiss his requests to play with him. Then he will grow up happy, learn to give and give love to others, will be ready for adulthood.
I think that Dima Zitser gives very useful advice, and in fact these are the qualities of a good parent. It may be difficult to follow them at first, but you have to try. The main thing is to turn on your head and heart in time!
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