Many couples now cannot stand family problems and prefer to divorce. And more than often the man is to blame. But, according to psychologists, there are some mistakes made by women, which lead to divorce.
Which mistakes? If a husband ruins a long-term marriage with his betrayal? Yes, and before the betrayal, he suddenly began to engage exclusively in his work, and was not interested in family matters at all? Of course, a woman after a divorce is looking for the support of family and friends, blames her ex-husband, but she does this in order to cope with the divorce and not go crazy with her suffering. He cheated, lied, and, in the end, just abandoned her with the children. He's a scoundrel, and she did everything right! Yes?
But no! It is convenient for women to pretend to be sufferers, seeking support from everywhere. But when they do not have the strength to cope with the divorce, they stomp to the psychologists who reveal the whole truth to them! Because in reality there are female mistakes that lead to all this! You may find it helpful to know this to prevent what many women come to!
Women's mistakes in marriage that lead to divorce
They put children first.
Unfortunately, many women immerse themselves in motherhood so diligently that they generally forget about the existence of a soul mate. It's easy to love children, it doesn't require any effort, but marriage does. First, the wife, tortured by family life, begins to organize outings with the children in cafes and museums, and then generally moves to sleep in the children's bedroom. What does she say to that? The fact that the husband is at work all the time is always busy, well, or tired, so he does not have to participate in family outings. And as for the nights together, he still comes very late, besides, he snores like a bear. As a result, it turns out that the husband and wife generally stop spending time alone. And for marriage, intimacy is very important!
They set no boundaries with their parents.
As strange as it sounds to many, parents should not visit their children too often. First, the woman herself invites them into the house, then they come without warning, and then they generally begin to interfere in their family affairs. They begin to help around the house, indicate how to educate children, and their daughter is afraid to contradict them so as not to offend. This is mom and dad, as you can. As a result, it turns out that a man is married not to a woman, but to her entire family!
They belittle husbands' masculinity.
Many women think that love is honesty, but they forget that sometimes the truth can hurt very much. Over time, this simply ceases to worry them. And the saw-wife starts to turn on! No, well, honestly, this is very terrible. First, a woman begins to discuss her husband's work with strangers, humiliates him, complains about him - thereby negatively affecting his self-esteem. Then he begins to control finances, scolding the man for every waste. She communicates with him as with a child, looking for mistakes on his part in everything. And in bed he also does everything wrong, and she does not hesitate to tell him about it. She seems to compete with him in everything, wants to prove to him that he is insignificant, and proves, he understands in the end that she does not respect him at all.
They are dishonest in quarrels
In any conflict situations, you need to talk and come to a compromise, but not everyone succeeds in this, well, or not everyone wants to do it. Sometimes women are simply silent, silent to the last, endure, as they themselves say, "for the sake of preserving the world." And then anger and resentment accumulate and pour out into a grand show with rage and hysteria!
I hope someone will draw the necessary conclusions and reconsider their attitude towards marriage. Girls undoubtedly need to love and appreciate themselves. You need to love your parents and children. But do not forget that you live next to a man, and not with a little boy who can be poked with his nose in his joints. Remember that he is a man, and not a nonentity who, you see, works, "and I'm tired here alone with the children." Marriage takes effort! Don't repeat these mistakes!
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