It is very difficult to maintain composure, control yourself and not do stupid things after breaking up with your loved one. You are so upset that it’s over, and it doesn’t matter what the cause of your frustration was. Of course not, this may be important, but now we are talking about how to control yourself if you still hope to reconcile with your ex. You don't need to become a helpless creature in his eyes, all the more you don't need to behave as if you don't care.
There are phrases you shouldn't say to your ex if you're still hoping to get along with him.
"Let's stay friends with you"
Think for yourself, what do you hope for by offering such a beloved man? You think that friendship will bring you closer, allow you to be close, and you will also be able to be aware of everything that your ex is doing. But you want something completely different, don't you? Friends tell each other about everything, including new acquaintances. Are you ready to hear about his new girlfriend yourself? About how he had an interesting time with his new passion? About how he liked his neighbor or work colleague? I think it will hurt you to hear all this! In addition, by staying with him, becoming a friend, you yourself do so that he will not be bored.
"I still love you"
You can't bring your ex back with that phrase. The most important thing to understand is that if you want him to start getting bored and you have an increased chance of returning him, you need to not show him your interest. Become indifferent. But the maximum that you can do with a phrase about love is let him use you.
"It's all your fault"
Maybe so, but you shouldn't tell him about it. After all, he will simply remember only the bad moments of your relationship, and he is unlikely to want to return to where he felt bad.
"I met a man who is better than you"
You want to return your ex, but do not think that this phrase will help you with this. You want him to be jealous, right? What if you can't do it, and you just make your ex-partner angry. Making your lover jealous is a great way to awaken his feelings, but it’s better to have your mutual friends tell him that you’re going on dates again.
"I never loved you at all"
And with such a phrase, many women want to poke their former noses into everything that happened, hurt them, humiliate them. But do you want to return it, or have you decided to put an end to it? If the former, then it is better not to say that. This is a gesture of despair, something that you can blurt out without thinking, in a fit of anger. Don't show him your anger.
"I'm sorry for the one who falls in love with you"
So, you just take it like this and tell him about your bad attitude towards him? Does this help you get closer?
"Come back to me, please"
No pleas and requests will help you, they are inappropriate. Do not beg the man to give you another chance, you do not need promises that you will change. You should know your worth, and if he does not see it, then you should not communicate with him! A man wants to see a confident and strong woman next to him, and not a helpless creature who constantly begs for something.
Phone messages
Any messages that are written unnecessarily will only worsen your relationship. Have you heard of the phrase "no connection"? I understand that you want to keep him with you, to know about where he is and with whom, but your SMS will clearly anger him, you will bore him, he certainly will not be bored. Yes, it's hard, painful, but it's better to endure it in order to increase the chances of his return.
Or maybe time will pass, and you will understand that it is better for him not to return to you? Appreciate and love yourself first of all!
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