Truly strong people try to learn how to control themselves, not other people. They work daily on the ability to keep their emotions to themselves, they have endurance. But very often there are people with a lack of inner strength who disguise themselves as a strong or aggressive person. How to understand that in reality a person is not as strong as he wants to appear?
It is worth knowing that if a person is only trying to appear strong, this can only help him for a short time. If he wants to achieve true success, then he simply cannot do without real inner strength.
Successful people do not try to appear adamant, tough, strong to everyone. They achieve heights due to the fact that they become better in themselves and in some business, and not for others to think so.
Here are signs that a person is only trying to look strong.
He is always positive and joyful.
Such a person pretends to be a happy, problem-free, kind of tough guy who, despite his mistakes, is happy with life and is confident in his abilities. All this eventually goes sideways when a person is not ready for the harsh realities of life. Not everything can be tolerated with a smile, so sooner or later, he will puncture. A truly strong person is simply looking for a balance between negative and positive, whatever the situation may be.
His self-esteem depends on the opinions of others
The false strong person tries to always look attractive, successful and confident. If people think well of him, his self-esteem grows, if reproaches and criticism are poured in his address, he immediately wilts. If a person is really strong, then he does not care about the opinions of others. He is not going to prove anything to anyone but himself. He can always ask for help if he needs it, he just goes forward, guided by his desire, and it becomes better in exactly what he does.
He hides his self-doubt
Insecure people who want to seem confident to everyone, on the contrary, are trying to prove to everyone that they are strong. "Look, I am smart, strong, I always do the right thing!" It's just a mask from others. Strong-willed people know all their weaknesses very well, they always work on themselves to become better, but they do not even try to hide it from others.
He tries to control everything
When a person is weak, he tries to take control of all situations, trying to look stronger. He is afraid that he will stumble, and, as it were, wants to be aware of everything and be prepared for everything. Such people try to control others, demanding from them sometimes the impossible. If a person is really strong in spirit, then he is interested in controlling himself and not others. He works on himself, on the manifestation of his emotions, and he understands that it is simply impossible to keep everything under his control, it is unrealistic.
He overestimates his abilities
It is good when a person is confident in himself, but when he clearly overestimates his capabilities, this already makes him arrogant, and in moments of collision with harsh reality, excessively weak. This is how people who try to appear strong to others behave.
Believe it or not, such people are only strong in sight, they are vulnerable at heart, and when they return home, where no one sees them, they begin to suffer and even cry. But it is better not to wear any masks and not to sob into your pillow, but to work on your fortitude. Work on yourself, your emotions, evaluate your actions, make plans, develop, but don't just try to look cool in public. It will not bring you success!
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