It is so arranged in our country that all the burdens of raising children fall on the shoulders of a woman, i.e. mother. A man becomes a breadwinner, a protector, and then only plays the role of a father. But psychologists have proven that a father has a huge impact on the life of his child.
A mother for a child is a person who gave him life, but do not forget that there is a second parent too, and the role of a father is no less important than that of a mother.
A man in a relationship takes the place of a leader. It seems to me that anyone would say that in childhood, dad emanated courage, strength, he was strict. Women, on the other hand, are something gentle and beautiful. The image of a father for a daughter remains in her head for a long time. And it is in this image that she chooses her partner for life. If dad did not "reach" the courageous and strong, or was absent altogether in her childhood, she will approach her choice with excessive criticism and caution.
As for the boys, they try to be like their fathers in everything. The similarity is manifested in appearance, attitude towards people, attitude towards the female sex. If a boy sees respect, awe and care for his mother on the part of his father, then he will treat the female sex as tenderly, attentively and gallantly. If the son hears insults towards the mother, sees that the father belittles her in every possible way, then he will behave in the same way with women in the future.
Sometimes it happens that the father does not perceive his son or daughter as a significant figure. He criticizes, humiliates, drives into frames. And he does this because he wants to raise a "real person" from a child, well, or he simply believes that the child is small, which means that he has neither the right to vote, nor any other right. A child with such a father grows up with low self-esteem. And it happens that the child does not consider his father to be someone authoritative, treat him not with the proper love and respect, and in the future tries to avoid any similarity with him.
Mom is a person who will always regret, understand, and surround with care. But the role of the father is also important. The father's attitude to the child is reflected in his perception of the world, habits, behavior and psyche. For example, if the dad does not take any part in the child's life at all, withdrawing from his duties, aggressively refers to actions, makes fun of the child for something, then the son or daughter will remember all this, and the father will become unnecessary for the child and stranger.
Paternal permission, like prohibition, is always important to the child. Initially, the child perceives only his mother, as something important in his life, but then comes the realization of the role of his father in his life. The child tries to share his love between the two parents. Daddy lets him take risks, evaluates, demands results. We can make an unequivocal conclusion that the role of the father in the life of each of us is very important. The presence of a father in our life or, on the contrary, the absence of a father's upbringing - all this affects!
The decision to have a child should be balanced and deliberate. It often happens that the pregnancy was not desired, the couple did not prepare for the role of parents. And then a woman quickly begins to perceive herself in a different status, she has as long as 9 months to get used to the idea that she will become a mother (although anything can happen). As for men, everything is more difficult for them. For a long time they may not understand that they will soon receive another portion of responsibility, that a small crumb will appear in their life, which will need to be brought up. Often fathers do not know how to behave with children in the role of fathers, and, of course, there are cases when a new role leads to cowardice, and, as a consequence, to parting with a woman.
From the father, for the most part, depends on the attitude towards the male sex in the future, self-esteem, assessment from others, the ideology of future relationships and much, much more. With the help of paternal pressure and his influence, the child's personality, his opinion, his desires, ways of solving any situations, and so on are formed.
What do you think about this?
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