Mom... They say that mom is the dearest person on the planet. She will love her child always and in spite of everything. Only my mother will not betray, she will not offend, she will always understand. However, the experience of many shows that everything is exactly the opposite. Not every mother admits that her child is not nice to her, and that she does not love him. Here help can only be obtained from highly qualified specialists who can “clear the brains” of a woman. Otherwise, the child will have a bitter childhood experience living in a family where his mother does not like him.
One should not be silent about this, one should speak about everything out loud. No, this is not to blame some mommy, but to resolve psychological troubles for the good of the whole family. And most often the dislike of children takes place in families that are well off, do whatever they want for their offspring. People around them look at such families from the outside, and it seems to them that they are ideal and exemplary. What can children in such families complain about? However, not everyone can see children's pain, not everyone can see it!
Disliked daughter syndrome is very common these days. Toxic mothers keep silent about the difficult situation of relationships with their daughters so as not to receive contempt and condemnation from others. But if the problem is not solved, it will lead to irreversible and very deplorable events. What is the result? As a result, daughters grow up in constant stress, because their mothers are concerned only with what others say. And after all, with strangers, a toxic mother actually behaves in an exemplary manner in relation to her daughter. And the child is even more hurt, because without prying eyes everything is different.
Sometimes other relatives know what is going on in the family, but parents find great excuses. They claim that their child is capricious and difficult, sensitive, disobedient... That is why, even girls in such families are very strict. Relatives close their eyes, and in the meantime, the reason for "dislike" remains unknown to anyone.
Sometimes dads join moms too. They see how the relationship between their wife and daughter is developing, but they believe that the wife knows better how to educate correctly. And I don't want to argue with my beloved. And sometimes fathers support their daughters, though not openly.
So what happens to the girl in the future? She acquires the so-called disliked daughter syndrome. Firstly, the girl feels herself always superfluous in the family, therefore she is looking for understanding and love somewhere on the side. There are early departures from home, and strange friends, and early marriages, and children born out of wedlock. Secondly, the imprint lasts a lifetime, and can then be projected onto the children of this very daughter.
A child who grew up in a family where he was disliked wants to hear praise from others, he has low self-esteem, he does not succeed in school and work, he does not have pronounced talents. Disliked daughters have an imprint for life that there is nothing to love them for! The consequences can be devastating and very dire!
Even a grown-up daughter will not be able to find a common language with her mother. There are cases when grown-up daughters began a conversation with their mothers, trying to explain all the coldness of their communication. But mummies always deny everything, what dislike, what a lie!
Of course, we all want our mothers to love us. But due to circumstances beyond our control, it happens that someone in the family gets more love, and someone less. Approximately 50% of children, according to experts, did not receive full-fledged maternal love in childhood. They were not understood, not heard, and dreamed of growing up quickly in order to leave their father's house.
Let your children have an imperfect childhood, but you love them immensely, praise them and make them feel like the most important people in the world! This is true happiness! This will help your daughter (and son as well) grow up talented, purposeful, happy, and become a full-fledged person. But, unfortunately, this was not the case for everyone.
If you were disliked as a child, then do not project such an attitude later onto your own children! Don't ruin their lives!
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