A woman does not become confident, successful and happy by herself. A lot depends on the world around her and the people, on the man who is with her, on her career, as well as on her upbringing in childhood. Thanks to our mothers, we really grow up happy and confident! Therefore, today I want to touch on the topic of raising daughters by mothers. Everything is in your hands, my dear women!
How do mothers raise confident daughters? They trust them, speak words of support, and in fact support them both in childhood and adulthood. They become real friends to their daughters, they do not compete with them, they do not try to prove that they are better than their girls. They say these words to them!
"You are a future caring mother!"
You need to say these words to your daughter as often as possible so that she remembers that motherhood is the main function of every woman. Your daughter may be angry, nervous, hesitant about making any decisions because of something, but she must be sure that her mother will turn out to be amazing!
Words of sympathy and experience
You should always be interested in what is happening with your daughter. Her experiences, mistakes, successes. You must empathize and empathize with her. This will build trust in your relationship, make your girl kind and help her build relationships with people in the future. Always ask your daughter for her opinion before taking action. Don't tell her what to do and what not to do. Instead of constant monitoring, try to better determine the decision and trust your daughter. Ask about all business and current problems, show concern and love, instead of arranging checks.
"I know you will do the right thing!"
Sometimes your daughter, already grown up daughter, will need to solve her problems and look for answers to questions. But you have to show your girl that you trust her and believe that she will make the right decision. This is very important in the relationship between a daughter and a mother, and it has an impact on the formation of self-esteem. And, even if your daughter is wrong in her decision, never scold her for it.
"I am always glad to have your friends at our home!"
Don't stop your daughter from driving her friends home. Become a friend to them too, and always rejoice when they come. Let the doors of your house always be open for your daughter's friends, you have no idea how great and important it is. Become hospitable, keep the house tidy and clean so that the girl will not be ashamed to receive guests.
"I'm praying for you!"
In principle, you can not say this, but you need to pray for your daughter! Pray for her health, that she is surrounded by good people, pray that her daughter is kind and that everyone wishes her well too, pray for her female happiness.
"I love you!"
Of course, every mother loves her children, but for some reason many women are silent about this. Tell your daughter that you love her, say every day, make it a habit, and never break it!
"You can go somewhere to rest, I'll sit with your children."
You know, in our modern society there are already so few families in which grandparents take part in raising grandchildren. I know, now many will say, like, no one is obliged. But I still think this is wrong. Moms will understand me. We all need rest from time to time, so you should let your daughter unwind a little when she brings your grandchildren to you. And while the daughter is still small, a teenager, etc. do not deprive her of this relaxation and fun! Have fun with her, and then she will remember these bright moments of her life!
"I am proud of you, I am glad that I have you!"
Whatever mistakes your daughter makes, always tell her that you love her as before. Remind her that she is a welcome child, thank you for having her, say that you are proud of her.
Many mothers of age are perplexed why their adult daughters rarely call, come and almost never invite them to visit. But everything is in our own hands, women. We ourselves are the creators of the happiness of our children! If we want our daughters to grow up happy, independent and self-confident, then we certainly need to say these words to them. Otherwise, you can make your girl unhappy and never hear herself - "Mom, I love you, and I am glad that I have you!"
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