It's important to appreciate the moments with your parents. Just put everything aside for a few minutes and call your mom or dad. Someday they will be gone, and only then you will understand that all your worries were secondary, but the call from your parents... It hurts, it hurts a lot... Call them right now!
I saw such a picture in a minibus. The bus was packed, everyone was returning from work. There was a hum, woven from many voices. But in the midst of this hum, I distinctly heard: “Mom, seriously? Again? You are calling me for the second time in a day! " I turned around and saw a girl who was holding the bag with one hand, trying to fasten it, with the other holding the handrail, and pressing the phone to her ear with her shoulder. It is clear that it was very uncomfortable for her to talk, there was a crush all around, her hands were busy, but I was so "cut off" by the tone with which she spoke on the phone with her mother.
And you know, I didn't want to judge this girl, I just recognized myself in her. I, too, used to answer so sharply like this, I was very annoyed that my mother could call several times a day. I was annoyed by my mother's overprotection, because she always asked if I was warmly dressed, if I had seen the news, if I prepared a salad according to her recipe.
Yes, I myself know how I need to dress so as not to freeze, I monitor the news myself, I am already an adult. And I was so angry that talking with my mother turns me back into a stupid girl who cannot even step without adults. I have always believed that there are too many mothers in my life before one incident. I met a woman on the bench who stroked the phone and cried bitterly. I am such a person that I cannot pass by. So she came up and asked if she could help with something.
The woman was frightened at first. She said that she was just thinking, and even forgot that she was on the street. We got to talking, she said that her mother had died a month ago, and she was still waiting for a call from her. Mother called her every morning before work, and even in the evening. The woman said with tears in her eyes: “She called all the time for some nonsense, and sometimes I could hardly restrain myself so as not to yell. She got up early, and then waited for me to wake up to call me. And she had to figure out what to ask me about this, so as not to make me angry. And I was angry anyway. She just needed attention, she just wanted to feel like my mother, and I didn't understand this until she was gone! "
I felt so bitter about what I heard: “I, too, will never hear my mother’s voice. And no one will ask me if I am dressed warmly, what I ate, whether I signed up for a dentist. And I, finally, will stop feeling like a little girl, I will become a truly adult, so much so that I will live without a mother! How can you live without your mother? "
Such thoughts became scary, I dialed my mother's number, I wanted to hear her voice. And she immediately heard the alarm in my tone, is that how she understands it? How does her heart feel that the baby is crying? I calmed her down, said that I was just tired, and asked her the name of some medications that she advised me, and then said goodbye and promised to call in the evening. After talking with my mother, I exhaled with relief, I felt calmer.
And here is this case in the minibus. That girl was absolutely sure that her mother had nothing to do, that she wanted to "take out" her daughter's brain. But the mother is simply worried, worried, and she also wants to feel needed, to feel like her mother. And she, too, chooses topics that will not piss off her child. They seem important to her, and her daughters are empty.
When children grow up, parents get lonely. Nobody needs them anymore, nobody needs their care and attention. And advice is no longer particularly needed, children are adults. Dear ones, I beg you, I beg you, you do not need to grow up to the end! You can be a business woman, high-ranking bosses, but you will always remain children as long as your parents are alive. I wish you that they will be with you for a longer time! And for this you just need to make them feel that you need them!
Call your parents now!
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