The problem of raising children has always existed and will continue to exist. Of course, every year there are more and more education specialists and opinions about the correct "nurturing" of the generation. And the opinions of psychologists who deal precisely with the various problems of children are especially popular. Today I just want to talk about how to set the right boundaries for your child. This is the most important thing in education!
Correct boundaries for a child
Don't always listen to your child
Nowadays modern mothers follow the lead of their children with their own hands, developing their "personality" from the very childhood. “He doesn't like to eat carrots”, “He doesn't want to clean his room”, “He doesn't want to learn to tie his shoelaces”, “He doesn't want to turn off the computer at 11 pm”. It all starts with this, parents prefer to follow the lead of their children, instead of being firm and insisting on their own. It's just that the parents are very afraid that they will hurt the child, he will be offended and angry at everyone. But in fact, such parental gentleness only spoils everything, and turns children into real egoists.
Communication should be live, not virtual
It is clear that now is the age of technology, and it is impossible to hide all kinds of gadgets from a child, leaving him to live as if in the Middle Ages. But everything should be limited. Frequent pastime in front of the phone, tablet or computer gives rise to great psychological problems in children! They simply do not know how to communicate live, they sometimes do not understand each other at all! Therefore, you should definitely limit the use of gadgets, and it is better to find a useful alternative. Reading books, drawing, modeling with plasticine, walking and playing in the fresh air, riding attractions, board games, etc.
Teach your child to wait
Another indulgence on the part of parents, they themselves make the child unable to wait. As soon as the baby demanded something, the mother gives up all her affairs, and gives the baby what he wants. This is generally impossible! You need to teach the child and explain to him that it is impossible in life to get everything on click, that sometimes you need to wait a little. Otherwise, when your child is faced with adulthood, he will also find a number of problems, because not all "want" is performed by magic!
Mode in everything!
Very often there are mothers who do not enter a regime for their children at all, most often they are housewives who do not need to go to bed early and get up early to run to work. Therefore, they close their eyes to the fact that the baby may not sleep at 11 and 12 at night. And what's wrong with that, well, he'll lie down later, sleep a little longer in the morning, and mommy with him. This is a very big mistake. The mode helps a person from childhood to become organized, and then it will be much easier for him to simply live in our crazy world! Do you know how beneficially the regime of not only sleep, but also food intake at the same time affects the child's body? Teach your child to follow exactly the regime, and not his "want".
Engage your child in useful activities
"Oh, it's too early for him to clean, the little one hurts", "I can wash the dishes myself", "She doesn't want to collect toys, she is not in the mood." Are you serious or what? What will grow out of your child then? He will be unfit for anything at all! The older the baby gets, the less he will have a desire to learn how to clean the apartment and wash the dishes, then you yourself will bite your elbows!
Socialize your child
It is very important to teach your child how to communicate with people correctly, and you are the best example for him. Teach him to be polite, to say basic phrases - "Hello," Goodbye "," Sorry "," Thank you "," Please ". Only in this way a good person will grow out of your child.
Agree, these tips are very simple, and may even seem silly to someone. But they really work! So, before it's too late and while everything is in your hands, make your baby a worthy person capable of helping and good deeds. A person who will not be shy in front of difficulties and will definitely achieve everything they want in life!
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