Speaking of spoiled or problem child, experts often say that the problem lies solely in his parents. How so? - you might say. We'll tell you how you can be identified by the child, who in life are his parents. Your child is a mirror of your family!
Generally, psychologists say that difficult children do not exist, it is simply unhealthy situation around him, to which he is forced to adapt in any ways. Well, then, conflicts and troubles occur in any family, if you know what your fault, it is possible, everything can still change for the better!
Here are 6 common types of parents who harm a child
generous parents
These parents all imaginable and unimaginable ways to try to get their child, all he wants. Why unimaginable? Because often these parents have average or low income, so they can themselves go to an old jacket, but his offspring try to buy the most expensive phone. Their purchases, such parents changed the concept of love. How to buy the love of the child and give him instead of love and concern a variety of gifts. But sometimes a child needs just caress and care, not heaped things in unlimited quantities.
Anxious parents
These parents are constantly worried that a child gets sick, afraid that he had something will not work. So they make him a "greenhouse" and struggling to do something for him. Hence, by the way, and go to the concept of "sissy" or "Daddy's Daughter"!
tired parents
Such parents, not yet having found a family, we have built a mock her, where everything is perfect. And once married, they realize that it is not so. They are tired of children even before their birth. Partial phrase such parents is: "Do not go!", "Do not shout!", "I will punish you!", "You make me sick!". And even slips the phrase: "I'm tired of you!". A child deprived of parental attention, begins to look for it on the side. Hence, early pregnancy, criminal acts, etc. And yet, the child will try to win the attention of parents, sometimes committing horrific acts.
Parents - perfectionists
These parents often have several formations, specializations, trying to climb the corporate ladder. And the child require that he was the best. A child in such a family is the best garden, best school, the best institution. Children in this case will have to match the level, learn well and win prizes at various events. But more often the child does not want to himself, for example, to learn to be an economist, but I have to, not to upset their parents. And so there may be many examples. The child becomes unhappy.
Parents - losers
Such parents achieve much in life, but they also have unrealized goals. And all of them, they will try to revive his offspring. And here is the imposition of an opinion again. Children, not to hurt their parents, diligently learn, work, attend clubs, spat on his hobby, peer walk. Perhaps because of them, and will turn professional in any case, unless, of course, their nervous system will withstand such stress.
Parents who manipulated
Such parents use a child to realize their goals. A common phrase from their lips: "It is not necessary to me, and the child." The child eventually grows into a very unhealthy situation, he develops some protective mechanisms, the desire to escape from anxiety and loneliness.
Think! Very often we say that the child is the problem, but it may be worth digging to begin to imagine and to change the behavior that exists in your family?
