How to motivate her husband to earn more

No matter how much money was in the family - but still something lacks. And many women would like to see their husbands to earn more. Even if a force is applied to it.

In men, in response to this desire is often included a defense mechanism, "she just needs money."

In fact, she needed the freedom that gives the money. If a woman has given birth recently and sits in the decree, its earning potential is limited, and the needs are expanding day by day, as the child grows. In addition, not all women are ready to take over as the main breadwinner of the family, so as not to offend the dignity of the spouse.

In addition, an ambitious man who earns a lot, he is proud of himself, his work and its results, and his enthusiasm is passed and the woman, and the whole atmosphere in the family.

Thus, in reality, not all men are ambitious and not all rush to earn as much as possible. The reason is simple: the unwillingness to leave the comfort zone. Man would rather cut their spending than would seek more money. And if he has a family - in the saving mode, he will put his wife and children. And this is - a direct path to conflict.

Women are constantly thinking ahead: the child just learned to walk, and she already calculates what it would cost his education. Men solve problems exactly as they become available: there is money - well, no money - well, that will have to wait. Because along with the lack of money the wife of men also complain of their unreliability and irresponsibility.

How to motivate a man to earn more?

What not to do?

1. You can not "cut" and demand. What's interesting: there is no direct relationship between the irate woman and a real lack of money. That is quite a money can be missed (but would like to, of course, more), but a significant portion of them, for example, makes the woman herself. And that's what infuriates her that a man does not earn much more than her (hello, equality of rights, not all are ready for you).

Passivity in career and financial matters peculiar to men, phlegmatic and melancholic. If they push, demanding to get a second job or work to increase, reach and bring more money - they just run away, because any rigid moral pressure for them tantamount to physical violence.

If you "Saw" from & to financial problems of her husband, then the problem is not solved, and is compounded because the structural elements in such reproaches usually not.

2. Can not be compared with other men. If you do not want your husband was comparing you with other women, and rebuked you less beautiful, it is not necessary to compare his salary with the salary of her husband's sister's friend. Everyone has their own way of life and to compare its achievements with other people is simply meaningless. This does not smotiviruet your man.

3. You can not grow into loans to the motivation they put out. You'd be surprised, but also a smart way to use some of the woman to make a man to bring home more money. Unfortunately, with the motivation it has nothing to do. And working hard to pay off debts on loans, you will have together.

What do we have to do?

1. Set common goals

If the money in your family enough for everyday life, but specifically you dream of travel, or big house or a second car or a private school for your child - it does not mean that a man dreams of same. He can not even guess that your accusations about his salary - from the fact that you just want to holiday on the island. Their desires, plans and aspirations have to periodically share with their spouse.

Decide why you need more money. For example, you want to make repairs. And let's say the husband wants the same. Make a rough estimate of how much money you will need, how much to set aside each month to reach that amount by a certain date. When a man sees a specific purpose to which you want to go, and he will have the motivation to bring home more money and additional restraint from unnecessary spending. Abstract concepts about the "make more money", they think they can not.

If you do not even have enough money for everyday expenses, then correct the situation, too, begins with direct and honest conversation with her husband. Count together how much money you need to have to spend a month: payment for utility services, travel / fuel, grocery shopping, A pet diapers, etc. Add optional spending, which will not want to give up: leisure, gifts for birthdays, manicure, etc.

Do not forget to lay the amount that will need to simply defer to the reserve "fund" - just in case of an emergency. You also need to save money for a wardrobe update, repair of machines, health, purchase of children traveling. As a result, you should get the minimum amount that you must earn to cover these costs. For sure it will be more of your real income. But as long as your husband does not see exactly what the family does not have enough money, it will not have an incentive to earn more.

2. Support his undertakings

Perhaps your husband was trying to hint to you about starting your own business or want to turn in source of income your hobby, but in response only heard the criticism, accusations, misunderstandings and ridicule his interests. Only the support and reliable rear can push a man to move forward.

3. To create the appropriate social circle

It is proved that a person's income is approximately equal to the average income of its environment. People who build a career and earn good money, motivate others by example. Accordingly, if your environment will be friends who know a lot about money, develop, try to increase your income - and then your spouse will begin to reach for their level. And this concerns not only the sphere of wages, but also the cultural level, the breadth of thinking, etc.

4. Suggest options for the monetization of knowledge and skills

Trite, but many people who are experts in their fields, are not able to turn their experience and knowledge into money. Modern technologies allow you to sell your knowledge remotely, to express a variety of ways - but not everyone knows about it. If you see that your man is able and knows something, what others are willing to learn for money - tell him this way.

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