Finally you got married. There would be like a fairy tale: "And they lived happily ever after," but in this tale about the third word in your marriage or the third - his mother. She knows all the secrets of her boy, remembers the first steps and taught to tie a tie. Now he teaches you life together. True annoying? How to learn to live with the mother-in scandals?
The ideal way to - to live apart and away. To see the "favorite" mother rarely. But not everyone can afford a separate corner. We have to look for ways to live peacefully with my mother husband.
Down with the competition
You can start right away to compete in-law and a few months to be back in the registry office. Only you will not be a new family member to register and apply for divorce. It is necessary to you? It's his mother during a global quarrel, he will be on her side. Remember this! Think of advice-in-law, as an instruction for a new washing machine. Believe me, she knows her husband better. Yet she lived with him longer than you. Talk to her on the souls and remind them that you never take its place at the heart of her son, for the simple reason that she is a mother. So you no sense to compete with it.
Do not try to please
Do not play the role of diligent daughter. You are not a dollar and do not have to like everything. Even more so do not try to cook for dinner favorite dishes of her husband mother. Unless, of course, do not want to run into criticism and mountain boards. But do not behave as if you - the last tomboy on this planet. Observe the balance. In the end, my husband loved you without the approval of his mother.
Set boundaries
Make it clear: this is your family and third here superfluous. As would be difficult for my mother was, the boy grew up and had to get away from it. Clearly arrange the border, some family secrets-in-law allowed to enter, and which are exclusively yours. You may need psychological counseling. After all, a man who can not defend themselves from the childhood, does not learn to do it with a rhyme or reason.
without comparisons
Psychologists believe that strangers can not produce in us a strong negative emotional outburst, if not remind us of someone familiar from childhood. For example, my mother. Think not criticize your mother in law, as did the parents? Perhaps this is the key of your irritation and regular quarrels.
rights of others
If you live in the same area and in-law is trying to impose its own rules, then... I have to follow them. Still, it remains the mistress of the house. And you can imagine that they had come to another country, where they should learn to respect its cultural characteristics. And yes, think how difficult it is to be an American wife of Prince Harry with his grandmother. Exhale, and go to drink tea with his beloved mom reconciliation husband.
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