All parents love with their children and wish them only the best. But sometimes, without even knowing Mom and Dad do harm to your baby, with it almost daily.
All the matter in the words and phrases that sound in the direction of the child alleged benefit.
"You will not obey, I will give thee Babayke"
All situations and phrases that are meant to intimidate the child to achieve obedience, causing injury to psyche him out and can lead to neurosis. They play really sick - the fear to be separated from his mother. Such expressions do not teach a baby to understand and listen, and increasingly develop it fear that it will turn into a neurotic, frighten any noise and rustle.
"You do not know how / clumsy"
Many parents believe that such criticism is to teach the child self-reliance, "spurring" action. But we must understand that the baby she and so is learning, but from the first time he can not, so the results are broken toys, broken cups, torn books. When he hears from those closest to you, he sad sack, the baby dropped his hands and there is an understanding that to make the most worthless - it still does not work.
"All children as children, and you ..."
Trying to shame the child, comparing it with others, you develop his complexes. In particular, understanding that his parents do not love because he their child, and for some services. In addition, it teaches him a sense of inferiority, because the parents are constantly told that someone better than him.
"You'll be mischievous, I will not love you"
The purpose of such phrases - to achieve obedience. But as well as the previous ones, they break the child's life. Child need absolute confidence that parents will love him always, and in all. And you're constantly inspire him, that love has a situational character. So the kid will learn to adjust to life expectations, rather than self-realization as a person.
"If you want, you do not want and do as I say!"
Character and will need to demonstrate, but clearly explaining why and why you need certain things in this situation. Otherwise you break a child's character, from which he will always be an unwilling slave to the future, not daring to express their opinions. Or you risk to grow desperate rebel, who in any case would require her not to listen to the opinions of others.
"Do what you want, just leave me alone"
If you have put a ban child, your word must be unshakable. Otherwise, he will understand that any ban can destroy insistence. Such phrases are helping grow the manipulators and neurotics.
"Go away, so I did not see you"
Such words repel the child and make him believe that you are the most dear and loved one, you can easily give up and throw away. Hence the growing distrust of the parents, and in the future - coldness in the relationship.
