To begin, let's define the concepts of "extrovert" and "introvert".
Extraversion - that's the direction our attention to the external world, to people, objects, all around. An extrovert world is perceived as the sum of all that they see. Noticing new things, facts, movement of people and goods for the extrovert natural than to understand the relationship between each other. A common feature of such "external" people is like a full coverage all around, kind of a panoramic picture of the world.
Introversion - the direction of attention to your inner world and relationships between people. For introvert characteristic constant internal dialogue. These people miss what you have seen and heard through. As psychologists say, writing introverts given easier than verbal. Many introverts keep diaries, where will wear their feelings and thoughts.
This does not mean that such a person will be totally unsociable. But unlike the extrovert, he has only one or two friends, with whom he is ready to "fire and water". Often this friendship introvert keeps for life. It can actively communicate with people and even be "the soul of the company", but to restore the moral strength he needed privacy.
So, let us introverts, namely, moms, introverts.
It often happens that the mother-introvert complains that they can not long remain with her baby, tired of his constant activity. And sometimes even she admits that her child is annoying. In such a situation it is not necessary to say that she is a bad mother!
For every new mother baby care - stress, because since the advent of the baby whole life is subordinated to the care of a small miracle. And no matter what your personality type, it is difficult in any case. But one mother becomes accustomed pretty quickly with a new role for himself, and the other may be a long time be depressed, to which may be added to a sense of guilt because of the fact that it irritates own child.
Moms introverts - dreamer, closed and rarely indulges in a world of strangers. The child can take in your life this mother only the second role. And in connection with this situation the child is often left to himself or to other relatives. The emotional bond between mother and child, introverted every year weakens.
I tell friend. When she became pregnant and told his mother (introvert) of pregnancy, she replied: "I'll give the money, all we have to buy, just do not touch me, do not force you to help care for the baby." And what is most offensive, in this situation, my friend did not help!
We need to understand moms, introverts and accept the fact that children - is a constant hustle and bustle 24 hours a day, seven days a week, all year round! You have to learn to live with your child all the time. For your life to be a little easier in this article we will offer a few tips and you will not notice the world around will sparkle with new paint, and you love your little fidget.
Tip # 1 - Quiet time
It should not be just a dream, although it is also a great option when the child is asleep and you are sure to get some sleep with him. But in fact, a quiet hour in this case - it's an hour of quiet games or quiet study and not necessarily those games have to be consistent.
If you prefer hanging out, choose a quiet game: read a book, add puzzles, paint with clay or polepite. So you pobudet with the child and at the same time will not spend a lot of your precious energy.
And if you want a break from each other, accustom your child, you need every day to stay in different rooms to do their own business. Taught him to play the most, and preferably it should be too quiet games. Yes, it will be difficult at first, but the baby will get used and will even find positive moments in this situation.
Tip # 2 - Evenly distribute your energy
If you want to fully pay attention to your children tonight, try to work (if you work) does not assign the working meetings. Because it will be like a squeezed lemon to the end of the day. Try to evenly distribute their energy between work and attention to children. Do not try to one day have time to do everything. You do not just fail.
Tip # 3 - Early rise / late rebound
Depending on the number of children and their age, try to organize your family mode so that you have free time, you can dedicate only to yourself. Either you get up in the morning before anyone else and quietly drinketh alone a cup of coffee. Recharge for the day ahead with positive energy for a new day achievements.
Or, after the whole family was asleep in the evening, sit at your leisure in social networks or read a book. Yet again, the charge from this kind of peace and solitude.
Council # 4 - Babysitting or mugs
If possible, hire a babysitter for your child or give it to the clubs. Thus you will be able to again set aside time for yourself and to recover emotionally.
Tip # 5 - Stay on nature
When you go out into nature, then the child will be engaged in the study of the world. So many interesting things there: crumbled last year's leaves, which can leave; various insects, which can be carefully considered; flying past the birds... In the meantime, the child will learn with enthusiasm, you will be able to relax.
Tip # 6 - Angle
If you can see that all around you, so to speak, are annoying, then you have time to go into your own corner. This is a quiet place where you feel comfortable and relaxed. Even if it's a bathroom, but there you will be able to recover from the passions boiling around and go back to the family in a different, quiet and peaceful man. And you will see how everything will become more peaceful behavior. Just calm down in "his" corner.
Tip # 7 - Switch to the "blue screen"
Of course, the TV - this universal evil. But be honest with yourself, sometimes more correctly, choosing a good and informative cartoon, give the child it see it, instead of once again to persuade him to sit quietly and play toys. Kid immerse themselves in the magic of the cartoon and give you some time to reconfigure your emotional background. The main thing that you have not completely replaced the cartoons of your communication with the child.
Tip # 8 - Review expectations
Sometimes, you can (sometimes unknowingly) set for themselves, their children, others too high standards. And as if everything did not try, no matter how much you do not make an effort to delivered ideal still can not be reached. Lower the bar, be easier to look at the world without requiring any high ideals. Well, maybe not your child, for example, one and a half years to count to ten, and no matter how much you did not fight over it, do not get him that. Or your mother (as it is accepted in society) should be anxious grandmother to your son. To go with him for a pen everywhere, exploring the world, cooking compotes or bake cakes with cherries. And it is not so. She travels around the world, engaged in breeding new species of roses at his dacha. But you never know what your mom can be busy. But the time for her grandson she did not. Cease to be nervous about it. As the great "can not change the situation, change the attitude to it!" Take your grandmother for what it was. But you are always at home will be new and fresh roses. Or, grandmother was brought from abroad souvenirs, you son of a good study geography ...
Tip # 9 - Be aware of your limitations
Understand that each person has a limit of possibilities in health, character, or nervous system. You will not be able to jump through. Honestly admit that you "do not pull it," "you can not do it."
Tip # 10 - breather
If you notice your child something with enthusiasm plays, and pay yourself time. Grasp the crochet or read a book. Even the dishes in a relaxed atmosphere, while the child does not pull you into another room. Sometimes it's those little breaks give more than if you had all day waiting for the promised hour of rest. And when he did come, you would not be able to decide what would you like to do now.
To be continued
