When the house happy woman, happy in it and my husband and kids, and dogs, and even cockroaches. Therefore, an intelligent man, if you want his family life was filled with joy, his wife would try to ensure a comfortable environment for the education of his heirs. Alas, this is a dream, and is rather an exception to the rule. In reality, however, it is more common that the wife and mother is to everyone and everything. In fact, to please everyone and win the title of "exemplary mother", she often puts her psychological well-being and physical health.
Let's look at the script, which you definitely do not deserve. If you write less about you, to take urgent measures.
1. "Why is it all the time screaming ?!" Once in the house there is a child, the woman immediately becomes a mediator between the baby and her husband. Her like Pandora's box spilling out all sorts of claims, why the house is not cleaned, dinner yesterday, and the child cries all the time. In particularly serious cases, it is still charged with not too attractive appearance, and the reluctance to perform the conjugal duty.
We take action. Understand, this is not nothing but a manipulation of guilt. You are told that you are a bad mother and wife, and do not deserve a good attitude. But all the time to make and perfect could not have even Mary Poppins, and if you will not allow yourself to rest, stretch the legs. Not ready to find time to rest? Think of a child forever shook his irritated mother just will not do happy.
2. "You're doing wrong. Do you want to ruin your child?! " Yeah, sleep and see. Grandmother, friend, neighbor, the local pediatrician try again to establish you in the thought that you are useless mother.
We take action. No one believe. You - a great mom, and so do a lot for his crumbs. If there is something you do not know how, you will certainly learn. And you absolutely do not have to listen to advice. Well, or at least, try to treat them critically. You know much better what is necessary for your crumbs.
3. "Mommy, do you do your child ?!" Then connect the school. And you're ready to sit until midnight by making crafts from cones and acorns, printing out a presentation on natural and wrapping notebooks and textbooks. Then in the morning Iron-on transfer form, put the briefcase and drag sleepy wee in school. After all, if he had done something wrong, forget any notebook, or, God forbid, a diary, a teacher in public subtracts you.
We take action.Relax. From the fact that you are doing everything for the child, he will not become any smarter or more independent. What is more important to you, evaluation and judgmental gaze teacher, or real knowledge of the baby? Doing everything for the child, you deprive him of the opportunity to learn to make decisions and take responsibility for them. And be prepared for the fact that you have to solve the problems of his life. And if something does not go so far as to him, in his failures, he will blame it for you.
Mother - this is the hardest job in the world, working 24 hours a day, seven days a week without holidays and weekends.
Sometimes, doing it, so tired that I want to cry, but seeing the grateful look of his child, love his eyes, you realize that you're the most important person in his life, and somewhere there are forces move further. We reserve the right to make mistakes, no one is perfect. Take care of yourself for the sake of their children!
