Each pair sometimes there are disputes, disagreements and conflicts, some of them may pull a pile of innuendo and insults, which will undoubtedly affect relations. How to sort things out with a man, to resolve all issues and keep the relationship?
Simple relationships appear only from the outside, in fact - it is everyday hard work, which occur victories and failures, without clarifying the relationship and can not do. There are 5 basic rules that will help withdraw from the conflict with a man real winner.
Do not interrupt and let the man speak.Even if you are quarreling, do not lose their "person" and have respect for his wife, let him speak until the end, without interrupting. This has several advantages, firstly, after the man spoke, it is very likely that you will be heard and, secondly, without getting his comments (even if unbearably want to), you relieves the tension and increase the chances for a peaceful settlement conflict. Have the patience to listen, even if you think it says bullshit, remember, you will also have the opportunity to have their say. The only strictly prevent mistreatment, abuse or mat. In this case, you can either refuse to talk, or safely say that this treatment will not tolerate.
Hear what he says.During his monologue man, listen carefully to it, and do not think about the defense arguments, or something else. What he says, is incredibly important. Men are subject to logic, accordingly, it will not try to bring you the extra information, and express everything in fact. Your task is to remember the essence and in its response, in his own words to defend their point of view.
Keep calm. In no case did not find out the relationship under the influence of strong emotions, for example, in anger, in this state, man is capable of breaking a pile of firewood, although after a while can not even remember exactly what said. If you're really angry, take time out and cool down, let you get into the habit to sort things out only on a cool head. Experiencing strong emotions, you will be nervous, raise the tone, cry, be confused in mind, the man simply will not be able to understand you, not what to hear. Sometimes it happens that the cause of the quarrel the evening seems to be simply unforgivable, and in the morning you look at everything with a smile.
Do not be afraid to admit their mistakes. They are able to admit their mistakes, not all, but in a relationship it's worth it. If you already own doubt in the right, find the strength to admit it, gently, without extremes. "Yes, I think I behaved in this situation is not quite right." "Really, I did not come too clever." By doing so, you will not only knock out the man from the hands of his trump card, but also show that you made a mistake, it can be recognized and nobody will zaklyuet, next time perhaps he will give way to the first, at some point realized that not rights.
Learn to concede.Be smart, know how to give way whenever possible. Relationship - it's not fight without rules, where in whatever was necessary to win, sometimes losing, you can come out a winner. Trying to argue and prove something to the man, you can drive it to a dead end and make him an enemy who will try in every way to take revenge on you, but you will most certainly be right. It is important to ask yourself an important question, what do you want from a relationship, always dispose of the right or happy?
Also be sure to ask about on what grounds to determine that you are in a toxic relationship
