From time immemorial it is believed that a man wins a woman, and not vice versa. That he should come galloping on a white horse, defeat the dragon and ask for the hand and heart of a princess. And it is at this moment on the balcony, flapping eyelashes and languid sighs. We often say that such men are extinct, have become, say, timid and infantile, and therefore a woman simply need to take the initiative in their own hands. But it is not so.
In fact, the substitution of roles to anything good will not. Yet nature has that man the hunter, and if he did not make the effort, then the value in the "production" does not feel.
In no case do not try to push it a purely male methods: ringing, appointments, give gifts, to solve their problems or to pay for it in a restaurant.
So stand aside and wait until he realizes that you are exactly the most unique? Why! A woman has her arsenal, with which it may apply to the hunter signal that the best animal in the forest he did not find.
1. Learn to listen more than talk.
Sometimes men need to speak out. And no matter what he says about his difficult childhood, problems at work or share their plans for the future. Learn to listen without interrupting or distracting, sometimes insert brief remarks on the subject and asks you to strange moments.A woman who knows how to listen carefully, do not yawn, and not being distracted, can not but draw attention to themselves. Perhaps he had never in my life seen such a good company, and his monologue about replacing brake pads so no one has not impressed. And that means he wants to talk to you again.
2. Do not be predictable. He was late for a date, flirting with another woman, or committed some other "mortal sin" and expect you to the standard female reaction: tears, insults, tantrums. In no case do not roll up to the man scandal, when he is ready for this. Better to just calmly explain to him that his behavior he upset you. For example, instead of "hitting": "Where have you been, I'm waiting for you for an hour?" To better articulate "I was worried that you were not so long."
The man, who has resided in anticipation of female hysteria, relieved exhale and will appreciate your behavior. And the next time you will try not to disappoint.
3. to a man's heart is through his stomach. This old adage is relevant is not less than 100 and 1000 years ago. Prepare for him to do something with care and love. Just do not ask directly what he loves. Let this be a pleasant surprise. It is desirable that this was something cozy and home that he can not buy in the store. The man will thank you for the care and see you as a future owner of the house.
4. Do not hide admiration. No matter, he nailed a shelf in the bathroom, or win a million tender, he needs praise and approval. The main thing that was genuine admiration. And then remind them of his exploits with friends. And even if he is embarrassed and says that "all that can be."
5. Not a single bad word about his friends and relatives. The bride - acquaintance with their parents or friends, it is important to impress them. But it is equally important to share their opinions about his family with her man. And this opinion should be good. It is people close to him, he knows a lot longer than you and your criticism in their address will be unpleasant to him. It is better to find a reason to praise them and make it clear that stand between him by his friends or family in your plans do not include.
6. Divide his hobbies. Choosing a man, remember that you choose for yourself lifestyle. If he likes to go hiking in the mountains of western Ukraine, and your dream vacation on the Turkish coast, your future is quite uncertain.
7. Do not pretend to be his freedom. He wants to give up with friends on a fishing trip or go on a football? It is not necessary to hang on his leg. Respect his privacy. It is very important for men.
And at the same time with burning eyes told him about their achievements and enthusiasm demonstrates that you have something to do in his absence. A woman who is completely dissolved in a man, for he is the only meaning in life very quickly get bored.
8. Maintain its beginnings. He talks about plans to build a business? Think about what you will be able to help him. But do not do anything for him, advise, find the right people, point. Joint work for his use often holds a pair of stronger engagement ring.
9. Take it as you are.Annoys his snoring at night - buy earplugs, he likes to sit in the evening with friends in a sports bar - arrange a slumber party with her girlfriends. Think of how you can eliminate the feeling of discomfort, without trying to change in this man. Believe me, a man will appreciate that you take it for what it is.
10. Show him that his opinion is important to you. Leave him the right to take decisions that affect his life. He decided to change his profession? Support it. He wants to sign up for cooking classes or massage courses? Do not say it's a fool's errand. At the same time let him know that the key decisions in your life, you will also take your own.
And remember: if, despite all your efforts, he can not understand how a diamond is next to him, it's just not your man. Do not waste it on their time and energy. Be happy!
