The study which was attended by 168 couples for 13 years, says that often divorced spouses who were extremely affectionate, attentive and attached to each other at an early stage relations. And those who treat each other with less attention to the beginning of the relationship and during the honeymoon are much more likely to live together happily ever after.
American psychologist, relationship expert and head of the Madeleine Mason Reyntri research comments: "Some people are so passionate about their partner that they can not soberly assess situation. In this situation, "love is blind". But the craze - merely a temporary condition, as well as passion. When this state is held, one can understand that between them with a partner have nothing in common, except the passion. Then the relationship terminated break. "
I agree with her opinion and the New York family psychologist Susan Winter. "The excessive emotionality characteristic of the partners in the period of love, which, alas, does not last long - usually from three to nine months. Life problems can quickly remind myself. And that's when you will see a real person, without the "rose-colored glasses." Quite often, the reality can cause frustration and disappointment in most cases brings partners to divorce "- she says.
The authors of the study want to reassure that the manifestation of tenderness and affection for his wife is not always a sign of problems in the future. Rather, it is an unhealthy emotion, "Toxic" relationship.
"If you are passionate about each other so that the hold harmless partner to communicate with family and friends, spend with him all his free time and hung up on a partner - your relationship unhealthy. However, if you treat your partner with respect, tenderness and care - you're all right, "- explains his position Reyntri.
Also at risk were a couple who showed minimal attention to a partner early in the relationship. On average, such unions fell apart two years later. Among the obvious signs of problems in the future, scientists have called the reluctance of partners to work on the relationship, lack of respect and understanding.
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