American psychologist John Gottman 4 feature called a relationship that will inevitably lead to the collapse. Perhaps they will help you to dot the «i» and rectify the situation, or else let it go.
Complaints and dissatisfaction is normal, but criticism - it is more serious thing. Criticism is a psychological attack on their partner as a person rather than his actions. That is, he could not endure the garbage, not because he had forgotten, for example, but because he was a bad husband.
Hushing. The worst course of action - a complete disregard for the partner, the construction between you and him "stone wall" of disputes and complaints. Otmalchivayas, we are not simply retreating from the problem, but on the emotional level moves out of range of our relations with the loved one.
If your partner makes you outspoken contemptAnd you always demonstrate their attitude to him in many different ways (taunts, bad jokes, insults publicly and so on.), To solve the problem is almost impossible.
Defensive position - defensive position only aggravate the conflict. Constant accusations partner in conflict are especially dangerous and do not lead to anything good.
