Life is multifaceted and unpredictable. Sometimes the plot of television "soap" pales in comparison with the ups and downs of the real family. One of the options for the development of such stories - the adopted child in the family.
Most often after the divorce the child continues to live with his mother. That is, in the vast majority of new families is the Pope taking the responsibility of marriage, parenting, and provide a foster child. Typically, each case is different. But there are some general, basic, rules for all variants.
• Do not impose. Even step back to a certain extent (not to be confused with indifference). Give your child time. Behave naturally, communicate, be interested in things, but do not try to get closer to the early days. Everything has its time and place.
• Never speak badly about the biological father of the child! It is better not to bring it up. But if there is, do not say anything bad. Nothing to say good - keep silent, try to get away from the conversation, change the subject.
• Find common hobbies, topics for discussion. Communicate with the adopted son or daughter as equals. Perhaps something ask for advice, for example, today's younger generation is well versed in the "gadgets" and to surf on the internet, programs.
• Try to avoid school topics, lessons, assessments. Let it remain until the prerogative of mothers. Show that you are interested in is the extracurricular life of the child.
• If possible, travel with. Being away from home, in unusual circumstances, it brings in a new environment.
• If the conversation and communication is not glued, do not insist, step aside - the water wears away the stone.
• Build relationships dad / foster child on an equal footing. Never humiliate, do not insult the child. But do not let such in his address.
• Do not try to seem better than you really are. Be yourself. Children immediately feel the slightest false, and it will not add you to the pros, but most likely will provoke the opposite effect.
• In any stressful, problematic situation take the initiative in their own hands. Show your calm, confident virility. Be leadership. Solve the problem and step aside without expecting praise and recognition.
And the most important thing! I enjoy receiving baby. Love like their own, native krovinochku. And be sure to come a time when the child will be revealed and will respond to you in return. Good luck!
