Child psychologists are familiar problems associated with the perception of children of divorced parents.
Psychologists give some advice to couples who want to divorce, and lay a divorce, not to hurt their teenage children. Firstly, it is impossible to delay the divorce, if the decision has already been made. Living together parents who eagerly waiting for the opportunity to leave and irritate each other acts on adolescents is far worse than a divorce.
Secondly, one should not underestimate the possibility of their child, in particular its ability to understand and adequate assessment of what is happening. And, thirdly, it is impossible to hide anything from teenagers. If you are going to get divorced, you will not only put the child in popularity, but also consult with him as an equal. Try to explain the situation and describe your feelings, and then the child will understand and easier to transfer the gap parents. The only thing the teenager should be protected, it is stormy scenes showdown.
The younger the child, the more dangerous for his psyche parental divorce. The hardest hit are experiencing separation mom and dad to the children aged 5 to 15 years. At the same time the most difficult adolescence allows the child to survive the divorce of parents easier and faster.
Psychologists explain such a low response of adolescents to divorce the fact that at this age the child is too many activities and interests. He dives headlong into a new adult life, enjoys the opposite sex is a hobby, preparing to enter the university. Time to experience the adolescent does not remain, and even such a negative event in his life, as the parents' divorce, his little touches. Even easier to tolerate divorce of parents, students of the first years of university, they are too absorbed in their studies and new acquaintances.
Quite different is the situation in terms of divorcing parents if children less than 13 years, the parents think that divorce will not become for them a source of psychological trauma, and much wrong. On the contrary, if the children are in their teens, parents are afraid of divorce, waiting for the children of violent reaction and profound experiences. At the time of their children's learning at the university, parents are willing to hold off on the divorce, but would not create additional stress for the student.
