The child grew up in the summer, has become independent, you do not drive it by the hand, does not see off to school, providing freedom of action. What you need to teach a child not to worry every time about security?
The child grows up, becomes independent and you no longer drive his hand and follow him around, giving freedom of action. What you need to teach a child not to worry about it every time securityGoing out for a walk or sending my child to school? How to help the crumbs do not fall into a dangerous situation?
What are they strangers?
Tell your child that the stranger - this is the one he does not know. Most strangers good, but sometimes there are hazards that can hurt. It can be male, female, grandfather, grandmother, or another child. The main thing is that the baby needs to understand - this stranger, which anywhere and can never leave, even if he knows his name and says he knows parents.
Explain that if the child is met at the site with another child, playing with it can only be where parents are allowed.
If you notice that the kid spoke stranger - to intervene. Even if it's my grandmother, who decided to give a child a candy, calmly explain that teach your child not to talk to strangers. Of course, you can take refreshments from someone whom you trust, even if that person is a stranger to the kid, but explained: "I know this man, and therefore allow you to take the gift."
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Alien adult
There are children who themselves are happy to get acquainted with all the passers-by, tell them about yourself. Up to 3 years that behavior can be considered normal, there just need active participation of parents and a reminder of the important rule: if you want to meet someone, first ask me. But if the child and in four or five years, completely open to all around, never shuns strangers and does not separate from the foreign ones, it is necessary to consult a psychologist.
Teach your child If approached by a stranger, then you need to immediately move away from him, go to the one you know and tell you that a stranger came up to you. Even if you want something to give or ask for help - always says "no" and go to the parents. If you walk around the house, do not run into the road, you'd better call in intercom or Call parents.
Younger children may be asked to report on their travels around the apartment or the playground - it will form a habit of keeping parents informed of their whereabouts.
play Dramatize meeting a child with a stranger. One of the parents can play the role of a stranger, which is something friendly offers crumbs. The child should immediately move away and run to the other parent, telling him about the meeting with the "outsiders". Vary the game by various "baits". Let your "stranger" is good, helpless, or, on the contrary, formidable, requiring that the child obeyed and went with him.
If there was an aggressive adult before the child
Even more dangerous if a stranger starts to take away the child by force. In this case, the child will need strength and the courage to cry out loud. The main thing - do it right! Just tears and shouting will not help. People may not understand what is happening, and think that they face a common sight when a parent tries to tame a capricious child.
Teach your child If someone grabbed her arm, then you need to fight back and scream that you do not know this man. For example: "Help! It's not my dad! "
play Choose any game in which there is a seizure. Let the adult catches and catches the child, who must be a loud call for help. It is important to help your child feel free to shout.
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Familiar "strangers"
Unfortunately, about 80% of cases of violence against children to make them familiar people. So sometimes even more dangerous than the familiar strangers. A child needs to know who has the right to take it out of kindergarten, school, lessons at the club. Be sure to check in facilities, which are visited by a child as there are teachers, if the child came to someone who they do not know or who they did not expect, or make a list of those who can pick up your child and agree that you will call immediately if a child comes for someone other.
Teach your child If you meet people you know (friends, neighbors, coaches, friends of your family) and they'll name somewhere, always first have to tell their parents and go only with their permission! If someone of the familiar adult does something unpleasant, that confuses you, touches for body parts that close underwear, forces keep secrets from their parents - must tell us, we will protect you, and stop this.
Of course, in order to explain things a child will need more than just a one-time conversation. Needed stories, examples, which do not frighten him, but will help to respond correctly. Well together with parents attend special classes where the kid in the company of other children can learn how to act.
play Try to remember the child stories, which are familiar or unfamiliar characters acted the hero is not good. For example, Alice Fox and the Cat Basilio, who became friends with Pinocchio, only to get gold coins, stepmother Hansel and Gretel, who had left them in the forest... Just be sure to remind your child that most people are good, but there are also bad. Therefore you should always tell your parents or to patronize adult if someone is calling with.
If a child is lost, he is lost
No matter how careful parents may be, it can happen: you turn around and see that the child is not close, but only that he was there! Little calmer parents who know that their kid is able to behave in such situations.
Teach your child If you understand what was lost, then do 2 things: first - stop; the second - a loud call me the one who lost. Do not go anywhere and wait for parents on the spot. If someone offers to go look for your loved ones or to say that he knows where they are - do not agree to go with the other person. Say: "I will wait here for the parents!"
play Let the child plays the role of "Poteryashka" stop and loudly calling you. Walk up to him as a stranger and invite parents to look for, to wait for them in the café, where there is delicious ice cream. The child must refuse. The game will help the crumbs to remember the sequence of actions. Try to switch roles so that the child was the "stranger" and tried to call with a "Poteryashka". So the kid will understand that there are people with different motives, and you can show him the correct pattern of behavior.
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