You're fired! Many of such news just dropped his hands. Loss of a job in a shot not only on the wallet, but also for self-evaluation.
Except for the dream, the work many of us take almost most of the time. we sometimes even on weekends can not help but think about it. Colleagues are often close relatives, and the workplace is seen as a second home.
And then the sudden dismissal becomes for us a lot of stress because, being left out, we lose not only money but also the habitual way of life, circle of friends, social status. How to cope with the emotions and find the strength to start all over again?
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Why me?
This question asks himself every before anyone put the requirement to leave!
The man begins to compare yourself with others, to look for evidence of their competence, sense of duty and responsibility, which yesterday could not doubt. Also coming under scrutiny all the situations of misunderstandings or quarrels with his superiors and colleagues.
But most of the people did not find any obvious reasons why a candidate for the "crash" was supposed to be exactly it. A little easier if you reduce the whole department or company is closed: when an employee connects job loss more economic difficulties than their personal qualities.
1. Try to escape from the mental obsession "cud" associated with the search for the fault. Perhaps the head needed to reduce staff, but he can not fire an employee who left six months before retirement, or a woman on maternity leave. Therefore your candidacy may be determined by exclusion.
2. Do not compare yourself to colleagues, trying to find in their work or personal qualities as much as possible flaws or, conversely, do not consider themselves around the Joneses. Such reflections provoke you to negative emotions against those with whom, until recently, you had a good relationship. Try to stay friends with them: so, you will be more comfortable now and is useful in the future.
3. Try to be honest and talk quietly with the head how he appreciates your work. Perhaps some of his remarks will encourage you to changes that will be useful in his new job. In addition, lost innuendo, is itself a source of stress.
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It is not necessarily down the career ladder
It is not necessary after the dismissal to seek a lower position or salary, lost faith in their skills and abilities.
4. We must not forget that a certain proportion of hypocrisy and manipulation - the norm for any professional environment. You may flatter to get some preferences, or, conversely, overly critical, trying to bring down the price in every sense. It is not necessary to focus on the individual opinions of themselves as professionals. Try to average all available estimates, taking into account the possible reasons for their statements.
5. Do not hide the fact of his dismissal from the professional community as something shameful. Take advantage of the support of colleagues, their connections and recommendations. Encouraging words and positive feedback from people who appreciate you, infuse much-needed confidence right now. Remember the famous saying of "half empty or half full glass" - and look at the loss of work from a position of an optimist.
Time for change is now!
Creates stability so appreciate our sense of security, but this often leads to stagnation in the form of a lack of new knowledge and skills.
6. Unexpected dismissal may be... timely. Agree, you would have for a long time wondering whether it's time to change the familiar, but bored or low-paying jobs, and now forced to act. Try to think more about the opportunities that opened in front of you, rather than losses. Most likely, after a while you'll see: everything that is done - for the better.
7. If you periodically visited the idea of changing the scope, time to think about it seriously, weigh the pros and cons". Working person forever once to learn something new and extremely difficult to take the risk and give up a bird in the hand (fixed place) for the dubious pie in the sky. Now you do not have these "constraints".
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And bonus!
- Have you been experiencing chronic fatigue and even notice the symptoms of burnout? Consider dismissal salvation!
- Allow yourself to fully relax and not "between the business", as it was every year. Do not blame yourself for that "eats money." Gain strength, you will be able to actively look for work, showing himself eychary best.
- Stresses and failures at work emphasize the importance of relationships with family and friends. Perhaps now you will be able to find a job closer to home and on schedule, allowing pay more attention to family.
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