You, too, so it was, when you do not know what to do with obsessive companion? He talks and talks... I advise you to some movies, the book slips, funny pictures of social network, tells how to lose weight better, where to relax, how to tame in-law, and to anticipate future.
And yet - in good faith. Good causes. That is, doing what you do not ask him. Do you want somewhere to disappear and never with the "well-wishers" not to be crossed. If you do not want to be in place this man, take note 5 golden rules of silence.
RULE ONE.NEVER ask for free Help
If you are in the company presented a man who turned out to be a doctor, teacher, lawyer, psychologist, fitness trainer, do not overdo with exclamations of admiration and does not begin to talk about their problems, flowing smoothly into the request to help you with advice.First, people are not at work. Secondly, with the professional help you need to pay.
Rule Two.Never discussed MOM WITH HER CHILD
And let the mother herself told about the difficulties in bringing up "spinogryzov" and asked for advice on how to "tame the Shrew", to express correctly and neutrally. Tell me that you understand how difficult it is to raise children, and we are sure that mom is sure to find the most correct way. If you start blame the child - then blame his mother. It was she allowed him to grow up to be, and to do so. And you are guaranteed an insult.
Rule Three.NEVER talks about ex-partner
Even more so - do not compare him with his current lover. Even if he asks to tell, "as you have been." Limit very short statement of facts: "There were relationships, they last so much, did not work because". All the details on how you spend your time, that was prepared some gifts were given, what sex positions used - TABOO. And point.
Rule Four.DO NOT START YOUR OPINION WITH CRITICS
Even if someone in something very strongly "nakosyachil" remember criticism mission to show people his mistakes, help to fix them, not to destroy the morale. So, if you give someone or something evaluation, use the formula "one joy-one stuff." And joy - in the first place. First, praise, then reproach. If you start with the bad, the good has to be caught.
Rule Five.Do not answer questions that you do not ask
Simply put, do not betray secrets that you have learned. Even if it happened to be a witness piquant meeting, conversation, etc. Shut up. Each person chooses what he wants to know (He will extract the necessary information), and that put beyond their "comfort zone". Give you give him information which he did not ask you, you put him in a very awkward position. After all, he must somehow act, and he may not be ready, and simply "close" to you.
P.S.At all times, the law works the "golden mean." He acts in communion. Find the middle ground between the extremes - in silence and "verbal flow", watching the reaction of his interlocutor. And if you understand that you "puts"... stop and tell an anecdote. No beard, of course. Works!
