Who is the lucky man? Anyone whose life everything goes smoothly like clockwork, and the problems avoided it? But despite the fact that many dream of happiness, for some reason, one fails to feel it, even if their lives are not all right, and others unhappy even when they do, it would seem, all is well.
Perhaps, in order to understand why this happens, you need to understand what the theses do not believe happy people?
"Life is fair." They know that it is not. That in the life of nowhere may appear all 33 of misfortune. They do not take offense to life, because it does not offer what they want. Happy people just do what they are capable to make their lives more pleasant and others. Forgiving, including their own, let go of resentment and move on.
. "The suffering - it is bad"Happy people know that anger, irritation, anger and sadness have a right to exist, just like other emotions. And the suffering - it is an integral part of life, and the problems should be treated philosophically. Moreover, they see them as life lessons, through which we come to know ourselves and then feel better luck.
"I've got everything under control."There is a saying: "Build plans - to amuse the gods." No matter how carefully we have planned our future, life can always teach us a surprise and make their own adjustments. Therefore, do not be upset if something went wrong, you just need to accept the new rules of the game and see them in perspective. And the illusion that you are all kept under control only leads to overvoltage and disappointment in life.
"People are obliged to accept and love me."If your happiness depends on the opinions of others, to be happy will be very difficult. It is impossible to please everyone. Even our relatives often do not love us as we would like. Accept the feelings of people as they are.
"Nobody loves me." Another belief is able to poison your life. Life will be much easier and more enjoyable when you stop trying to earn the adulation. Cease to live someone else's life, doing all the things you are asked, afraid that if you refuse, you will not like. Relationship to you others - it is their own business.
"I cant". All restrictions exist only in our minds. And once you believe that there is something you may not like it immediately becomes true. Do not mistake Only he who does nothing. Just do not let failure to believe in what you are really something you can not, because you can do everything.
"All the time I have to someone to prove something." Do not compare yourself with anyone other than his former self. Only your own achievements are important. Do not try to prove to others that you are better, smarter, more beautiful. The only person in whose approval you need - is you. Be happy - it means to accept yourself for who you are.
"It does not matter". Do not reject your desires, dreams, needs of the fear of failure. "In fact, I do not need, it does not matter, I'll manage without it" - so say the poor people, to soothe his conscience. There are things that really matter, such as the right to happiness and self-esteem.
"I would be happy, if only ..."Do you really think that, for example, only lose weight, just meet her prince? Or find a good job, to establish relationships with loved ones, and so on? Start living right now, do not postpone happiness until later. You nothing prevents to be happy. The problem is not excess weight (or any of your other shortcomings), and in settings that your current form, you do not deserve to be happy.
"It's too late to change anything."You can not change your past, but in every moment of your life can make a decision that will change your future. And no matter how much you may be years, choose happiness is never too late. The main thing to realize that happiness - is not external circumstances, and how you treat them. Happiness and health to you and your loved ones!
And be sure to ask, 6 habits which is programmed people in poverty,. and if you can find at least one that is inherent in you - get rid of it immediately!
