Childbirth radically changing the lives of women. Now she's ready to devote herself to the baby. Completely and without reserve. This is the right approach when the baby a tiny and defenseless. But over time, the children are less and less in need of moms. Many of them becomes a shame they continually accuse their children of ingratitude, and they begin to feel a sense of guilt ...
Think about how often you tell your grown-up children to the phrase "I'm for you - all. And you... "A child asks you is" everything "? Did he ask you to They threw their interests, and lived his life?
No need to put on a cross. Understand one thing: the child is 5-6 years it is important not the amount of time that you spend together, but its quality. That is so you will at that time close any business will do together, what games to play.
Understand that children - not your property. A self sentient beings with their own emotions and inner world. Sometimes, they also want to restless mother left them at least for a time with his care. Maybe your care too much in their lives? Stop taking them by the handle if they have grown out of kindergarten age! Moreover, both literally and figuratively.
Naturally, you have to give the child everything depends on you.Happy childhood, a good education, food, shelter. And moral values - warmth, care, affection. Love. But do not try to control it completely and in every way.
Once the creators of one family transmission was asked to mothers of all ages: "Do you know what the main purpose of a woman?" And do you think that the answer to this 90% being in the studio? "To give birth to the child and make him happy." Yes, it should. But this approach is fundamentally wrong. The main purpose of women - most to be happy. But how can that be? After all, the interests of the baby must come first? In fact of the matter is that a happy mom - this is the most important thing you can give your child.
Consider whether your child will be able to grow high-grade person, if he sees every day how unhappy and drove his mother? And he will go in the future with their own children? There are two possible behaviors: either he will throw them completely devoting his life to short-term pleasure, or will try to copy the style of upbringing of his mother, sacrificing their interests. And it's hard to say that this worse.
Understand one important thing:giving up his life for the sake of the child, you do not make him happy, not applying to it a positive example. You teach him to be passive and unfulfilled life. So how do you think he can achieve anything?
The truth is quite simple: all should be the measure. And in the upbringing of the child first and foremost. Therefore, do not be a mom who suffers from overprotection. Make your baby happy by becoming happy themselves.
Also be sure to ask about any error in the education her daughter can break her life
