As a child, we do not just running and jumping, we have absorbed every cell model of the family, to bring it into the future. Someone refuses such a scenario, but most live, repeating all the mistakes parents.
6 family patterns from childhood, which obviously failing / istockphoto.com
Under the same roof
Several generations live in one big house in this family model. Grandparents, children and grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and sometimes live under the same roof, and God forbid to think about how to go live separately. The question is not in finance, it just has not been and are not looking for options. The desire to live separately regarded as a renunciation of the family. For healthy human development, it is better to live separately. And that will happen as in "Kaydashevoy family", where the war was worse between the generations than the Montagues and the Capulets.Perfect family
In such a family model is not accepted to voice complaints and grievances in the face. All live "together", although the relationship strained. If you tell me what really think about family and about their behavior, you and deliver branded anathema. Often in such families affected members hidden depressionAnd neurosis and disease - their faithful companions.
Seniors know better
In such families children are raised according to the slogan: "Senior knows how to better and he had nothing to contradict." Children are afraid of their parents and do everything they wish and order, but not out of love and respect for them, but because they are afraid of them. They try to please mom and dad, as an adult, and for each question consult with them, even if they have children themselves for a long time. Understand that you do control their own destiny and not the parents live their lives for you.
Children - all
In such a family, adults and children live for a lifetime lay at their feet. Their dreams mom and dad realized through the child. And they do not live their lives, not to upset their parents. Making children the meaning of life, you lay on them burdens and can greatly disappointed when the child decides to live as he wants.
The evil and the good cop
In such a family, a strained relationship between the couple themselves, they can not agree on the parenting. Therefore, they play "in the good and bad cop" when mother forbids, and my father permits and vice versa. As a result, children grow up and do not respect their parents.
The game of sacrifice
In such a family, and everything is always bad. The sun shines not so bright, and the government on a daily basis puts a spoke in the wheel, and even health to hell. This is where the arena goes back, who helps the victim of moral or material. Very often children are the defenders who are watching their parents, first with each other, and then pull them out of depression or help financially, even when they are quite capable to make on themselves.
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