June 17 in Ukraine, as in many countries of the world celebrate Father's Day. What role in the life of a child playing dad and whether there is such a thing as paternal instinct?
The woman knows her baby is 9 months longer than all the others. She felt the stirring of the baby, heard the beating of his heart and was invisibly connected with the crumbs the entire pregnancy, from the beginning, and which is included maternal instinct. Of course, it happens in a different way, because we are all different, when the maternal instinct turns later, as soon as a young mom take the baby in her arms and attached to the breast. And what about Dad, wake up when his feelings for the child?
When his father became pope. Pope was born at a time when the baby takes in his arms. In fact, to turn his father's sense of anything special do not need, you just need to be close to the early days, to respond to the crycrumb, to change a diaper, worn on the hands when the stomach hurts - so become dads.
Researchers found that men who spend much time with the child and care for him, reduces the production of the male hormone testosterone and the female hormones, on the contrary, increased. This means that the paternal instinct is also a natural basis, it just needs to run properly.
What prevents to become a dad or mum's fault.Often, with the advent of the child's social roles dramatically shifted, mother takes on the burden of homemakers and care of the newborn, and the father becomes a breadwinner, to support his family. What mistakes hinder women include paternal instinct:
- Pope to move to the couch or in another room;
- criticized for every miss or improper operation;
- minimize contact with newborns, arguing that "I myself", "wrong", "you can not do," and so on;
- encourage men fear to take the baby in her arms, or the fear of it to break something.
Making all these mistakes, then it is worth wondering why a man of such a heartless, do not take the initiative, not the child's interest and does not help?
The smaller the father spends time with his newborn baby, the further it moves away from it, and the less likely that the paternal instinct to ever turn on.
Council: Try the hospital after the return to the house, which is only your family, no grandmothers, great-grandmothers and aunts, especially those who come and live with you a few months to "help." You have to become a family, Dad must feel and share with you all the responsibility for the baby. The baby - it's always work, regardless of age, so the sooner you'll become a real family, the more harmonious your relationship will be.
How to help the pope to become a dad?The child not only feels his father's power, it is in her vital needs, so the removal of the father, since the first months of baby's life, is fraught with psychological problems in relationships father-child relationship. Partake of a man during pregnancy talk to the baby in the tummy, is tapping with him, you will be surprised when you see the crumbs of the reaction to my father's voice.
Do not remove the pope from the infant's life, give him at birth to be a participant on a par with mum process. Dad can change a diaper, it can feed the baby, buy it, change clothes, do almost everything and my mother. Leaving dad alone with the child, and trusting him basic care of the crumbs, you feed his father's feelings.
Pope quite differently interact with the children, play in other games, share them with other energy! It is proved that the Pope is with great pleasure and involvement plays with the child than the mother. The child develops harmoniously, when surrounded by attention and mom and dad, female and male energy, encourage the desire to become a father is not just the Pope, and to be the best dad!
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