Stanislav Grof, the Czech therapist revealed that, when you first look at the newborn baby and figure out whose nose the crumbs - Mom's or Dad's, you look not just at the "three and a half kilograms of" newborn silly little chap, and already formed personality.
The therapist has determined that all the sensations that a child receives during the birth and in the first hours after birth, do not disappear. They fixed it deep into the memory. And these feelings in the future affect the child's life - his character, behavior, behavior in different situations. This sounds unbelievable? U.S. too. Therefore we decided to learn more about this unique concept in more detail.
four stages
Stanislav Grof believes that in the process of "child in utero", birth and the first few hours after birth, the child fully formed and further influence by education and training can be compared with the influence of... baby powder. So, during this crucial time child passes 4 stages of psychological development:
- pregnancy;
- fights;
- genera (attempts);
- first feeding.
Feelings on the road with these four "stops" It fills the coffers of the subconscious of the child and becomes a vital basis for its actions and behavior in the future. Even affects the ability to relax and get pleasure from life!
The first matrix
Paradise, or The Matrix Love
The period of "pre-natal" childhood "- stay and Development under the mother's heart. Comfort, peace, bliss, joy and safety - is the basic feeling of the first matrix.
What does a child?If the child love and desire for the parents, they are consciously waiting for his birth, pregnancy proceeds without any diseases and poisoning by toxins of alcohol and nicotine, the baby receives in the future valuable confidence in the world - it has formed a high self-esteem, the ability to feel comfort in society ( "I love and love me"), and in dealing with people, the desire to learn new things, to start new tasks ( "This world is good to me, the ability to succeed").
The second matrix
Hell, or the burning house
When a pipsqueak in the womb is already fully developed, the mother brain gets "hormonal" signal and starts the process of childbirth - begin the fight. the uterus begin to contract, the child experiences pain, shortness of breath, plus everything my mother the body produces and "chases" blood mass of stress hormones - why pipsqueak is also experiencing strong first stress. Familiar kid safe world is crumbling. He feels like a man who has suddenly found himself in a burning house. He needs to figure out which direction to go, and start on the path to freedom, to the air, the light.
What does a baby?EIf labor has begun and proceed in a natural way, in the future the situation will not be difficult to put a man in the deadlock and force the position of an ostrich. At this stage the matrix patient, resistance to dislocation, life, ability to analyze and select the correct solutions for logical formula: hazard - Analysis - solution.
If during delivery that-What went wrong, it may be formed "matrix victim" when the future man ever complains of life and frightened the prospects of any complexity - it is difficult to find a new job, to get along with the team rules, make friends, and second mate.
The third matrix
Purgatory, or Matrix fight
It is necessary to block any attempts - the most difficult period for the baby is born. This is the stage of overcoming obstacles, when the crumbs have to endure the most difficult test of all time 9-month-old life in the mother's womb: a child suffering wedged in the birth canal. Now it is very important that the mother was with the child in touch - on the same wavelength, and effectively helped him to be born as quickly as possible.
What does a baby? This matrix is responsible for the future ability of the child to behave in a crisis, to fight for their place under the sun, and defend their solutions to achieve their goal.
FOURTH FRAMEWORK
New Paradise, or The Matrix freedom
Scarce was born - the first breath, first cry. Victory! The tests are over, then follows the first contact with the mother and the first breastfeeding. World again supportive of crumbs - as if he again returns it to the bliss and security while at some time in the womb. At such moments, a newborn feels that passed all the tests are not in vain, that everything will be good, and most importantly - that his love, this world is supportive again, he can be trusted.
What does a baby?On how the first meeting with the world, depends on the further well-being, self-esteem, relationship to reality, its own capabilities and abilities. If the child at the end of hard work Born receives compensation in the form of breastfeeding, contact with his mother, in the future, he is endowed with the ability to have fun and pleasure from the past stage, the work done and to overcome the difficulties.
If the birth something went there right?
In the case of cesarean or anesthesia, the child immediately from the first hits from the first to the fourth matrix. What this means for crumbs? On the baby's health is almost not affected. But in the future it can not leave the feeling of dissatisfaction zhizNew due to lack of experience of their own birth experience. He can be difficult to feel that the project has reached the final - you can now get from done award, relax, recharge and look in order to see a new project and a new opportunity for pleasures. Otherwise, people-workaholics living in the format of "squirrel in a cage" and get the adrenaline just in the process of incessant work.
P.S. Any scientific statistics about "whether the predictions come true" for matrices Grof, yet. One thing is clear, that the truth is somewhere in the middle, and the birth process will certainly affect the child, so you should strive to make this process goes as smoothly and naturally. And for this it is important to learn how to behave in each stage of labor - to breathe, to move and to keep in mind for whom you do it.
And if the birth something went wrong, then you just need to give your baby lots and lots of love, tenderness - to feed him breastfeed longer, worn on the hands and laid side by side to sleep, sing lullabies and tell how you love your beloved crumb. Mom's love works wonders - and it has long been proven.
Do not forget to read a unique study that all the boys initially - girls!
