Often, parents of schoolchildren are lost and do not know how to behave if their children do not attend school. We offer a few simple rules that will help you and your child through this difficult period in the life of any student.
It is impossible to "pigeonhole"
Most often, we know this rule and still call the child ignorant muddle and pick up even less flattering nicknames. And this, incidentally, is quite a shame!
School failure, and in itself is unpleasant, but when the child receives this kind of home "support", it becomes altogether intolerable. And somehow these negative labels does not change the situation for the better, and "ignoramus" is not obvious joy for cramming, but on the contrary, closed, moving away from their parents, teachers angry and throws any attempt something change.
Do not overdo it with praise
Try not to overdo it with praise. Perhaps the most frequent that the children hear unsuccessful - "You're such a smart boy, but just lazy" .Also a good chance to get there into the trap of constant self-justification: "I would do the lessons, but I was unassembled," "I would go to physical education, but I love sleep. " This technique is very rapidly absorbed, and, moreover, risks becoming a credo for the future.
How to: any praise should be deserved and comply with the Act. Anyone, even the most insignificant success is important to encourage - respectively, the effort involved in achieving it.
Do not pay for assessment
It is dangerous to abuse material reinforcement of good marks. Often desperate parents introduced a kind of "barter", offering a child money or buy things in exchange for good grades.
Sometimes this method does work, but if it is applied strictly intrinsic motivation is replaced by an external, not related to the value of the learning process. method of risk is obvious: we can once and for all to ruin and not including the cognitive activity of the child! Parents often become hostages of barter relations, devaluing simple praise.
