Conflicts arise in our lives very often, both among adults and children alike. Whether it is necessary to teach the child to fight? A very controversial issue, as it is likely that from your little angel grow inveterate bully and the bully. And if the kid learn loyalty and kindness to all around and treated, it can be grown zatyukali Sissy, who will not be able to fend for themselves.
We offer some tips to help you find the right way out of this very difficult situation.
Do not interfere, if the child gives all the toys at the request of another baby or if it does not meet the offender. Most likely, you raise a child in a friendly atmosphere, which is why the aggressive peers it does not hurt, but rather, just surprised. However, make sure that the children did not cross the border - to intervene only when the child is too aggressive trying to offend, or by age.
Allow your child to socialize with other children - it will develop self-confidence. In addition, even if your child does not like the "wave fists," that he learn to stand up for themselves and without this - strictly warn the offender, or show your view that he will not allow himself to touch.
Sometimes a child can fantasize how it will surrender the offender. It is best to play along in these games - it will help him in the future to respond to the aggressor as the use of force, and with the help of words. Try to leave your child, do not force him to stereotypes (this - it is bad, and it is - good), try to discuss the problem. That the child was able to fight back and teach him compassion for others. Pity is the best weapon in the fight with fear, because you can not be afraid of those who pity.
Teach your child to show and talk about the fact that some actions are unpleasant and ugly. For example, aggression outside baby, you can teach your child to speak loudly for all to hear: "Pushed very ugly. With these children no friends, "or" Those who fights, no one plays. " Do not forget that kids are not able to understand themselves - always watch them play, so your child will feel the emotional security. Try to unite peace-loving children in some interesting game - the game will soon be included even bullies and bullies, not to be left alone. If you see that your child is playing with only one toy, and all the others he had taken the other children, not need to panic and learn to select their belongings - often our children are much more intelligent - it can be an excellent strategy.
If you have a very shy child is not worth it violently forced to play with other children - better to let nature watching in the park. Always in the presence of a child saying polite words, teach its accuracy. Never allow a child to somehow harm peers: by word or action. Teach him flexibility. Watching the play of children, do not conflict - at the initial stage such a game can easily lead to more peaceful relations and distract the kids.
If your site is, the aggressor, to which the habitual actions do not fit (to prevent, divert, say), then you can offer your child a last resort - let pinches the offender, for example, for the priest. It will not do any harm, however, it can be great little fighter sober, he will realize that your kid may well stand up for himself. But, explain to your child that this can be done only in the very last resort if everything else does not help.
