He feels a woman when she finds out that "it happened"? How to survive the emotions, which nobody understands, and decide on the next attempt?
All these steps had to go to Australianwaist Aubusson, that after three miscarriages gave birth to a healthy daughter to great. Talia decided to share the experience of pregnancy after a miscarriage, to give hope to other women.
"When it suddenly happens, you simmer with emotion, and that's fine. Be prepared that you will not understand - Talia shared in his blog on social networks. "During this period, the body is full with hormones, which enhance the shock, pain, grief, denial, confusion - all the emotions that overwhelm you when you lose your child ..."
"The very first time I felt, perhaps puzzling. What's wrong with me? With my body? I was sure it was just an accident. Terrible shame, but a coincidence. And you know... then I realized how much I wanted to become a mother. "
"Before the second miscarriage I was very worried about his condition, which again will be" the same "or that I can not give birth...
The most painful was the third miscarriage. I went through a lot of surveys, and the doctors assured me that I and the baby are healthy. Healthy food, vitamins, low stress, a walk in the fresh air. All as a textbook. I did everything "right." And then in the US, I learned from the doctor that the child has stopped beating heart. How do I feel? Broken, devastated, I was in the office of ultrasound on trembling legs, trembling hands wiped the remnants of the gel from the abdomen and crying... "
"You know, that was the most difficult? Attitude to her husband what had happened. He frankly did not understand why I worry about... No, my husband is not an insensitive man - just that he did not have the slightest attachment to the baby, who had already begun to live under my heart. No, I did not blame her husband's brain and heart - hated him for callousness... "
"I realized: the best thing I need right now is to be alone. Just to be alone. After the third miscarriage I have a couple of months a few months left to the sea to experience their grief. And I know more than anyone that all women who have experienced miscarriage, forced to face their own grief heavy and full of not to understand by others. And it's so hard... "
"Yes, this is a very personal experience. To understand it, to help cope with them can only be a psychologist, a very, very close to the man or woman who is "it" too familiar firsthand. Or do you just need to be alone with him. You have the right to their mourning for the unborn child. "
"Eighteen months ago, I became a mother. I was born and my husband's lovely daughter. I love her. But, you know, I still think one of those unborn children. I imagine how they would look as if playing... "
"I really want to say to all the women who have experienced the same as me: what happens to us after the abortion - this is normal. We have every right to experience grief as much time as needed. I'm glad I had the courage to say this, because silence is also suppressed. Now I feel better. "
