Communicate with a teenager is not easy, but on the subject of sex - even more so. Strictly speaking, the question itself is delicate, and not every parent is willing to speak frankly about these things with their grown up child, even if they have previously developed a relationship of trust and "kid" shared with my dad or mom many. Approaching the age of adulthood, our children are not so frank at least due to the fact that in this period of life are, in principle, not very talkative.
First love, the company of peers, later returning home - all these teenagers try to taste, learn from adulthood. Parents at this time as much as possible try to keep your child away from bad people and unpleasant situations. And the more take control of their children, the greater the resistance met. Such conflicts provoke adolescents to various rash acts, including sexual experiments.
Debra Haffner book "From the cradle to the First Dates" just helps parents understand the topic of adolescent sexuality, responding to specific questions, but doing it as gently as possible. In the book you will find personal examples from the author's life, describing the problems that occurred with her son and daughter when they get older.
"It is not easy to be a teenager in today's world. Frankly, I think that being a parent of a teenager - a humbling experience, "- says the author, who has worked with young people for over twenty years and knowing it would seem, the whole theory of the issue and use it exactly to the moment, not yet faced with the practice - his daughter Alice and son Gregory. Knowing all the stages of child development, feeding information theory about sex and having a store of knowledge accumulated twenty years of experience on how to begin a conversation with sixteen uncommunicative teenager - all, apparently, should help, but for such an expert like Debra Haffner it was difficult challenge.
Therefore, any parent should not despair, passing this vital stage along with her growing child. Debra Haffner itself acknowledges that each year, together with his colleagues (psychologists and doctors) they are going to to discuss issues related to their children growing up, even though they themselves are experts in the problems of other teens parents.
However, Hoffner is convinced that after reading her book, you will understand how your actions and involvement in the life of your child (and this applies to all age groups) are important to him, though, perhaps, a child never to you about it say. "I promise you that if you follow the recommendations in this book, you can increase the chances that your child will not be involved in a sexual relationship, which is not ready ...", - she said.
The red line in the book, the author holds the idea that "sexually healthy families raise sexually healthy children and adolescents, which later become sexually healthy adults." Very often, many parents believe that teens do not have to so control their children, because they are old enough to own responsibility for their actions. But it is precisely this period, according to Hoffner, is the most difficult and responsible parenthood among other steps. If you are with your child come to the stage of growing up with luggage trusting relationship, the most sincerely interested in his life and the problems of talking candidly on various topics (or simply talking), then your child has a chance to not start early sexual initiation and conduct antisocial way life.
The author does not impose his point of view, but only suggests how better to express their opinion, to be able to interest any subject of a child of any age, while showing that you are willing to talk to him about anything, and that you can be trusted with the most secret.
The book is designed for parents who are willing to learn how to talk with your child about relationships mothers and fathers, sexual orientation, sex and as such with regard to it in society. And, of course, on a candid answer to the question: "Where are all the same are the children?"
