Surely, many of you have noticed the paradoxical at first glance, the trend: after leaving school, most diligent and industrious students honored with gold medals and honors, to put it mildly, it is not adapted to later life is education institutions.
But with the Losers and troechnikov things are different. Often the highest offices and posts occupied by those who cheated in the neighbor's party control and "homework." Why is this happening?
Most of the standouts is one feature - in school, they are afraid of anything being wrong. And this "complex excellent worker" pursuing their later life.
However, it should be noted that aligning one size fits all standouts, too, is not worth it, because the desire to learn in children often due to the radically opposing factors. Some just look with one eye on the training material, and already mastered the necessary information in full; others have to gnaw granite of science strictly controlled (and sometimes oppression) parents. At the slightest setbacks they faced head-on with discontent moms and dads, and along with understanding own discrepancy parent standard, which leads in adulthood to a variety of complexes.
Children with honors often believe that their world everything has to be perfect and perfectly, while equating all of your skill level. That is why they are more likely to face the incomprehension of colleagues, become causes of conflict at work and different situations that inevitably lead to stress, depression and a negative perception of the world in whole.
Actually, this they differ from the former "Losers", steadily standing on the other side and are able to professionally "shoot" from all the ills of life.
Although Losers, too, are different. Some people just behave disgracefully and recklessly ignore the standard rules, the other - very selective, favoring only the interests of the subjects; a third study really provides is extremely difficult.
Due to constant criticism from others, have produced Losers her steady immunity to continue their there are no problems with self-esteem, which helps to more effectively run their own business or to easily move up the career stairs.
Another, and perhaps the most important aspect of the success of Losers - their personal value system. They do not pay attention to how they are measured classmates and teachers. But the honors just highly dependent on the opinions of others. this is absolutely not necessary Losers. "Pose" - not their strong point, so they grow much faster than their peers and by the end of the school, as a rule, suited to life. While the best students are just beginning to face the first difficulties.
Alone vyzubrennoy curriculum is hardly enough to make a good "float through life to any depth." Must also flexible thinking, the ability to communicate with people and make lightning decisions, ability with the dignity and the least loss out of this situation.
Anything that unfortunately is not taught in school. But abandoned it, like it or not, for the time, manage the school career
• Do not succumb to another's influence and always defend their interests;
• To be able to fend for themselves;
• Engage in self-education, while not shining success in the conventional curriculum;
• Excellent to combine theory with practice;
• Do not be afraid of their own mistakes and take risks if the risk is justified.
From all the above, you can make an erroneous conclusion: why then, in principle, to try to learn if "ignorance" has a successful finale? In fact, every parent just need to help your child to understand why he needs to acquire knowledge and how they will be useful to him in life, instead of being engaged in cramming. After all, in fact it is impossible to learn everything, as it is impossible to please everyone around.
Cramming - this is only a good score on the report card and certificate, which has no meaning in life. Help children maintain their individuality without breaking their studies, and giving the right to choose, and keep in mind the most important thing - to each child needs an individual approach. I wish you success!
And be sure to take a look at 8 Losers, which we all feel great!
