Often young mom complained that her husband was very reluctant to care for the child: to get up at night to change diapers, to walk with the stroller. And, therefore, all the worries fall on their shoulders. Men really need time to turn the paternal instinct, because it is not nurtured crumbs 9 months under the heart and hormones he, unlike mom has not changed.
But have you ever thought once that we women sometimes do not help prevent our husbands to show care and attention to the child. Let's try to understand what motivates young mom in this situation. After all, to recognize the problem - is the first step towards solving it.
1. Giperotvetstvennost. The woman believes that her husband will not be able to do everything as it should. "Get away, so I think everyone wears a diaper, holding the baby, prepare a mixture of ..." As a result, the pope reserves trying to take care of the baby, because he will still do everything wrong, and his wife will have all of them remodel.
How to deal? Give the spouse a chance to showcase his talents for the entertainment, calm and care for the child. Believe me, nothing bad will happen if he does it is not so perfect as you. Give him a chance to practice in the "papacy". Much more disadvantages in the case of the removal of cases from the Pope: crocked mom giperopekaemy crumb and helpless father.
2. Jealousy.Perhaps, after the birth of a child, a spouse all the attention goes to him, not you. But both want to feel not only the mother but also a desirable woman. Yet it so happens that the father and the child, when he grows up a little, my mother unite against the coalition. All that it prohibits, Dad permits, emphasizing how it kinder on the background of his wife.
How to deal? Try to talk to her husband, to explain how you do not have enough of his attention. And also that you can not play "in a good and bad cop": this will lead to the fact that the child will manipulate you. If the husband does not agree to your restrictions, it is better to discuss it without the presence of the child and develop a common strategy in education.
3. own feelings. This happens if, after the birth of a baby, the woman is completely isolated from public life. Scarce become the center of her universe. It may even secretly jealous of her husband, who goes to work and lead an active social life. Like, you have your pasochki, I have my own, and my territory do not go.
How to deal? Agree with her husband, or take a few hours a week nanny to have a little time for yourself - go to the barber shop, meet with a friend or just sleep.
