You know, how much time per day, the average pay for children's parents? 19 minutes! Another 16 "bonus" minutes of children manage to carve out at us during a joint dinner or going to the supermarket. And even in that half-hour communication, we often voiced her children to the phrase, which is harmful. Yes, the damage - correct picture of the world of the child and with it our future relations. Do not believe me?
Editorial kolobok.uaIt brought together 10 of the most harmful of phrases that we potchuya their children knowingly or out of habit - because we pronounce them our parents.
Nothing bad / It is not scary / Just do not hurt
Of course, you just want to calm the baby (and sometimes themselves, if you are very worried at this moment for the child). And you decide, so you'll have to maintain a frightened crumbs. In fact, you tell your child that it is better than he is, you know, hurt him or scared. Why not say, "I know that you now hurt / scared, but I'll help you and everything goes."
I said - and all!
It happens that tame the obstinate or stubborn to appease a small harder than... to prove Fermat's theorem. And yet, it is not necessary to "feed" him such "arguments". And if the child asks "Why?", To add in excess of control "In Kocani," or "Because it ends in y."
It is possible in fact that the grown up child will soon talk to you as well... clearly. Let's find on a child 1-2 argument available to him and explain to negotiate.
Oh, do not make things up!
For children to dream, to invent, to write an incredible story as natural as breathing. Moreover, the baby brain is so constituted that pipsqueak not always understand myself, true or not that he invented. And our "Do not make things up!" Brings the kid out of his light and bright children's world in reality, where he did not believe. And the kid next time is unlikely to share with you their stories. Children's trust - something very fragile.
Can you at least a couple of minutes to sit quietly ?!
All healthy kiddies default it should be energetic Fidget - so they learn about themselves, their bodies and the world around. And when we make it a "claim" that inform the child that he does not like us so we were not satisfied with his activity and a cheerful disposition.
How can pacify fidget? Play with him, you tell an interesting story, read, count. Lots of ideas! At worst, say, "Sit down, please, quiet a moment."
Come quickly - how can you expect ?!
All the power and energy of the baby and so spent on it to collect as soon as possible, and it also dovetails with reproach. Children in the default stress worse think and act. Better help, encouragement, tell a joke to cheer up the kid, who has something does not come out.
I see you do not want to!
One of the most dangerous phrases, which his parents can tell the child. In fact, addressing these words the child - even in a very severe irritation - you tell a child you are not satisfied, and life would be better if the baby was not there... I do not say those words never. Count to 10, take a couple of deep breaths and run ice out of his mind.
I'm so messy'm not going anywhere
Children need our unconditional love, when love him just like that, for nothing - or rather, only for the fact that he was born is in this world. A phrase about "slut" you say that you are ashamed of Chad, waive his society, because he had accidentally soiled. It's so offensive!
Now, because of you bad mother!
Well, let the kid mischief - that's no reason "to grow" in his guilt. You know what this means? The child may assume that all the trouble in the family way or another, are due to him.
NN - so well done, and you ...
Every child is unique. Every child is born with its own set of abilities and also develops its own way. It is an axiom, that is the truth. Therefore, to compare their child with someone else, and, moreover, with a brother or sister. And then, the child always have something to praise. And if you're rebuked misdemeanor child, compare it to himself: "You do have such a fellow, and went like this ..."
You poor child!
In continuation of what has been said above - should not evaluate the child, namely his act. No wonder they say, if a person is constantly talking, that he was a pig, he soon zahryukaet. The children really need our faith in them, and our labels - as a "vaccine" harmful behavior.
