Parenting - one of the most interesting and complex processes in life of every parent that someone held her head high, enjoying success and proud of the achievements of their children, and someone is trying to find an answer to the question: "What did I do so that my child has grown so a failure? ". Frankly, to find the answer to this question is difficult because often many unknowingly committed actions aimed, apparently, in the benefit of the child, in fact, impose a load irreparable errors.
Ideal parents as ideal children can hardly be found, but this education results ultimately may be diametrically opposed. Why is this happening?
There are certain mistakes made by parents, who clearly leads to the fact that the child becomes zakompleksovannym, insecure or has any psychological deviations. There are even certain types of parents who, unfortunately, children grow up, losers.
Always dissatisfied parents.So parents almost never impossible to please: that the child did not, there will always be something for which you can reproach. Set the highest score on the drawing - "Could and math to bring such an assessment, I found something to brag about." Blinded wonderful crafts - "It would be better to put the room his, than to engage in this nonsense."
And they say this is not always the parents of malice, not on purpose - for the programmed pattern, recorded on a subconscious level. That's because these really terrible phrases, and creates a solid foundation in a child zakompleksovannosti and unwillingness something to do in the future.
Parents bodyguards. There is a category of parents who do not let their beloved child away from you on a step, considering it just an extension of himself. They can not perceive their child as an individual with their own desires, opinions, interests. Such parents can immediately find the pair said the sentence: "We went to the first class", "We tooth ache", "We went to the sport," "We have problems with their peers."
It is also the hallmark of these parents is that they only work for the future of your child benefit. At first glance it may seem that all is well and nothing obscure about it. But, in fact, such a "tethered" baby later in their adult lives will try to reach for the others as well as to their parents and trust them implicitly. But the world is not so generous in close contact as we would like, and it is likely that seeking warmth and support, the child can communicate with a bad crowd and begin to fill the void addictions.
The main task of the parents - to give the child to independently carry out the responsibilities that he shoulder and how to show their confidence in him often.
Authoritarian parents. Such parents always know how their child will be better, and it's always him even spoken out loud: "Parents know best, so your opinion does not matter right now." Such children initially only try to resist, but eventually their rebellion turns into a direct subordination to the parents, and later the boss. It all starts around with the phrase "You can not currently be hungry - it has been a long time moment when you ate the last time "," I know that it's cold outside, so you can not be heat".
If you feel you are "overdoing" with his authority in the home, try at least in the games give the child the opportunity to express their importance. Often ask how he or that could do, such as running a toy? And then your child will know that you are not so perfect and so, too, can something I do not know.
Adoring parents. This item, in the opinion of many is certainly out of place, but in fact it is a misconception. Zalyublennye children who can do anything, do not have a very bright future, as if the parents do not like. These children are never guilty in the eyes of parents - all the blame around, but they did not. These mummies and daddies can often be found on the playground, always arguing with the other children and their parents.
In fact, every child, beginning with the very tender age, you need to create boundaries and publish clear rules - to them any crumbs will be much easier to go through life. Otherwise, from cute kid to grow self-centered person, not owning skills and standards of conduct in Society, which will receive from the painful blows of life, but do not understand why it's him It is happening.
To the consequences do not become a personal tragedy, "loving" parents need to teach your child to be responsible for his every act. Delineate for him clear boundaries of what can be done and what can not, and then the end result will grow harmonious person, easy going in his life way.
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